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Two Thoughts Kids Have When Their Parents Fight

And how it hurts their self-esteem.

Fighting in front of your kids can be damaging to their self-esteem and self-worth, according to Dr. Phil.

“When [home life] is volatile, [the child] doesn’t know from one minute to the next whether it’s just going to all blow up and be gone,” he explains in the video above. “Then she’ll never develop the self-esteem, never the self-confidence, never the self-worth to go out into the world and be confident, because she knows she has a solid base of operations that she can always go back to.”

Additionally, Dr. Phil reveals there are two thoughts kids have when their parents fight, which can also hurt their self-esteem.

Watch the video above to find out what they are.

According to research from 2012, fighting in front of kids can be detrimental to their health, causing kids to become emotionally insecure and struggle with anxiety or behavioural issues later in life.

However, while children are sensitive when it comes to their parents’ fights, not all arguments are bad.

Dr. Gordon Harold, a researcher at Cardiff University in Wales, told ABC News, “Arguments that are dealt with effectively that are conducted calmly that show clear messages of negotiation and resolution have positive implications for children.”

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