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Simultaneous Orgasms Are Happening More Than You Think, Says Survey

But it's not that realistic a goal to shoot for.

And here we thought the female orgasm was hard to achieve.

According to a survey by U.K.-based sex toy company Lovehoney, 89 per cent of couples have experienced simultaneous orgasms, 37 per cent have experienced them half of the time or more and the average couple orgasms at the same time once every three times they have sex.

The data was collected through the company's social media accounts and emails to customers, resulting in the 4,400-person survey, and, as Glamour notes, "it's possible the high proportion of sex toy users in the sample biased the results, especially since 95 per cent of the women said they found it easier to orgasm with toys."

The results certainly seem a bit skewed, as it's common knowledge that women orgasm less than men. According to a recent study, heterosexual women have fewer orgasms compared to men, lesbians and bisexual women.

This study also noted that few heterosexual women climaxed as a result of penetration alone, and showed that women are more likely to orgasm if they experience passionate kissing, genital stimulation and oral sex before intercourse.

However, according to science, there are many ways for women to achieve orgasm. A recent review by Concordia research published in Socioaffective Neuroscience & Psychology reports that women have a vast potential when it comes to experiencing orgasms "from one or more sources of sensory input."

The researchers came to the understanding that the female orgasm can be achieved by stimulating "triggering zones" such as the external clitoral glans, the area around the G-spot and the cervix, as well as non-genital areas such as the nipples.

"With experience, stimulation of one or all of these triggering zones are integrated into a 'whole' set of sensory inputs, movements, body positions, arousals and cues related to context," senior author Jim Pfaus said.

It's also important to note that mutual orgasms shouldn't be the goal every time you have sex, and that sex without simultaneous orgasms can be just as satisfying.

"Most people want to orgasm simultaneously because that's the way we always see it in TV and the movies, but it's just not a realistic goal to shoot for," Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, told Glamour, which noted that although three in five couples surveyed by Lovehoney sought out simultaneous orgasms, less than half considered having an orgasm as the main goal of sex.

As many people know, there are all kinds of ways to enjoy sex without achieving orgasm.

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