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'This Is Worse Than Death': B.C. Dad Reacts To His Son Coming Out

"Take out your post from the social media. You embarrass me... I'm going to puke."

"You are trying to ruin me," the post reads. "This is worse than death."

That's the reaction a Vancouver-area teen named Tyler got from his father after he came out to his family.

The Grade 10 student posted the screenshots of a Facebook conversation with his dad on his Tumblr account. The conversation happened last winter, but the hateful reaction has recently attracted attention online.

"We took care of you since you were a baby. We loved you, took care of you when you're sick. Lost many days and nights in all your fifteen years. [Now] this is what we get in return, shame and embarrassment," said the message from the teen's father.

"Take out your post from the social media. You embarrass me... I'm going to puke."

Read the exchange below. Warning: some readers may find the language offensive

"I just wanted to be open about it," explained Tyler, who didn't want his last name publicized, in an interview with The Huffington Post B.C. "I didn't want to hide it anymore."

He told his family one-by-one, starting with his two sisters, who fully support him. Then he sat down with his mother, who was initially shocked. But Tyler said she eventually told her son she accepts him just the way he is.

"I was so happy," he said on Thursday. "I was so, so thankful that my mom supports me."

Tyler's father was last on the list.

"I'm upset with what my dad said, but I don't hate him," the teen said, turning emotional as he described his hopes for their relationship.

"I'm hoping there's still the possibility that he could change, even it takes awhile. Maybe he could accept me, because that's all I want... I just want him to be there for me."

“It’s a sad story but unfortunately it’s not surprising," Dara Parker from Qmunity, a B.C. queer resource centre, told News 1130. "We average between 20 and 40 youth each week and unfortunately we hear these stories more often than not.”

Since Tyler posted the messages online, people from all over the world have passed along their well-wishes.

"You are a brave soul for reaching out," said one response on Twitter. "You have support around the globe. Try to find strength in this."

The teen said he's currently living with his aunts, but hopes to reconcile with his father soon.

He decided to go public with his story because he believes the issue isn't discussed often enough, adding that the support is beyond what he ever expected.

"It's just amazing," Tyler said. "People need to know there are so many other people who would want to love you and be your friend, so (that's) what really matters."


Gillian Anderson, 2012

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