With Fifty Shades of Grey hitting theatres this week -- and so much controversy and misinformation out there around what D/s is and isn't -- today I want to offer up a glimpse into the REAL world of D/s. Here are the answers to nine popular questions I've been asked.

I started by telling you about my own experience in the world of abuse. I did this because those experiences are what helped me understand the importance of healing in light of a frightening situation. These women -- our sisters -- need our support and understanding to heal. But we cannot forget the men. At some point we are going to have to turn around and help heal this man. Many will think he is undeserving, but he too experienced trauma in his life which he has had to cope with. I'm not talking about forgiveness, I'm talking about compassion.

Everyone is talking about Jian Ghomeshi, the disgraced and affronted former host of the CBC's Q and alleged sexual misconductee. There's been a lot of backlash: against Ghomeshi, against the CBC, against his so-far unnamed accusers. So let's get a few things straight.

As a former Crown prosecutor who's run many sexual assault trials, I'm not at all surprised that none of these young women reported their experiences (if they are true). Most members of the public, until they're in the situation themselves, don't understand the reluctance of women to report, and what they'll face if they do.

I'm not interested in discussing Mr. Ghomeshi's sexual preferences. What does concern me is whether all this negative press will scare women and couples back into their sexual shell. Are they now hesitating to go see the much anticipated Fifty Shades movie, feeling guilty instead of empowered if they choose to indulge their sexual senses in this pleasure?