People are talking about the recent article claiming that the loss of a job is harder to bear than death of a spouse or divorce. When the loss of work means more than the death of a spouse, then I have to question what has happened to our values and the meaning of relationships.
In life, do you choose to take the road everyone has taken, or do you choose the path that is best for you? It might be tempting to choose what everyone has done, especially if it seemed to work for them. But is that what truly works for you?
Alcohol problems, drug use, sexual misconduct, financial misconduct, defensiveness, denial, berating of other senior management and directors, litigation, loss of key employees, toxicity and bulling. There is not much I have not seen when I am called in to coach the CEO. And CEO misbehaviour happens in the highest level of corporate Canada. You may be surprised, but I am not.
I realized that while I was willing to take feedback on my weaknesses, I was not willing to listen to feedback on my perceived strengths. Only upon reflection, I was able to shift my attitude and seek and accept feedback on areas I was expert at. I had to get rid of the arrogant self-talk of "I was the best at this."
Self-confidence as a skill that anyone can build, practice and master. It is the belief in your ability to accomplish the task at hand, no matter the odds, no matter the difficulty, no matter the adversity. Self-confidence is like a muscle. The more you practice, the stronger it gets.
I think just about everyone thought that Jordan Spieth (including Jordan himself) was going to win his second Masters and become part of golf history this past weekend. That was until the 12th hole and the longest thirty minutes of a young man's life. As the world watched him struggle on the back nine and make a valiant attempt to recover, some parallels between golf and business struck me.