At the first One Red Lipstick Live event, and nine brave women had stepped forward to give us a glimpse into their lives. They had ten minutes to talk and their presentation was being videotaped which would be enough to make many people truly nervous.

While we can't control what others think of us, what we can control is how we react. So how do we get over this fierce judgment we place on ourselves? Part, I am sure is letting go of perfectionism, lowering our expectations and realizing if you have done your best, that should be enough. I know, easier said than done.

People are saying that "everyone needs a mentor." And probably we do, but it is finding one that is the challenge. In a world of "what's in it for me" offering training and leadership opportunities to encourage people to step forward as mentors may be the way to go.

We are measuring ourselves against society's definitions of success, which may not necessarily be a fit with our own. So often people measure success by how much money you make, as if the dollars earned equate to happiness. I run a successful business, but I don't measure it in financial terms, but more by the number of people positively impacted by being part of our organization.

Part of the problem for women in the workplace, is that they believe if they work hard, it will pay off. They will get recognized, promoted and move up the corporate ladder. Wrong, claims the authors. As they say "it's not enough to be good." You need more.