coping with divorce
From starting the legal process to adjusting to life after the fact.
When my parents were together, my dad would come home, kiss my sister and me, and go to work upstairs. I used to wait all week for Sunday -- the one day we spent together as a family. But after the divorce, I could look forward to spending every moment of every second weekend with him.
Divorce is ranked above going to jail or losing a family member as the second most stressful life event you can face. In fact, the death of a spouse or child are the only events considered more stressful. And yet, this doesn't even take into account what divorce is like for those who are separating from someone with a high-conflict personality.
The biggest role model we have for relationships is our parents, and teaching children how to have a healthy relationship is important. I really believe it's also important to teach them how to deal with relationships that aren't working, showing them it's okay to move on.
Over the past three years since I got divorced, it is by far THE most popular statement I've heard from women: "I don't need a man." Well today, I've had enough. I think we are not just lying to ourselves when we say it, we're spitting on men.
Surprise! You are not seeing the gorgeous Arianna here for the weekly roundup because as Huffingtonpost.ca continues to ramp up, we are bringing aboard all sorts of homegrown products --including, now, me. I have just joined HuffPost Canada as managing editor for blogs. That means it will be my job to assemble a lively, interesting and original group of Canadian contributors to entertain and inform you every day. We've had a lively time this past week. We've just launched a Living section under editor Sarah Kelsey, who wrote a poignant and strengthening post about coping with divorce based on her own experience. The ongoing protests in front of the White House over the Keystone oil pipeline was briefly enlivened by the arrest of actress Daryl Hannah. Newly minted HuffPost bloggers Rachel Ryan and Ethical Oil.org's Alykhan Velshi were there to report on the protests firsthand for HuffPost Canada. Next week stay tuned for all the celebrity mayhem that will arrive in the form of the Toronto Film Festival.
When my marriage fell apart about a year ago, I knew there were only two ways to cope: I could be super melodramatic about how unfair life was or I could do something I'd never done before -- I could let my relationship epically fall apart as honestly and gracefully as possible.