Only you can decide what works for your family. But here's one option.
Their generation handled things very differently from ours.
My small corner of Mumbai simply didn't teach men to accept death, let alone deal with the emotions it leaves in its wake.
When men can't cry, that's the beginning of our problems.
The old me often got frustrated when my kids cried. Now, I realize that frustration came from a lack of knowledge of how to deal with emotions.
Why isn't that an acceptable way for boys to react toward pressure or other feelings? Why do we tell them to toughen up?
We need air in those situations. When someone knocks the wind out of you, you need to get your wind back before you do anything else. To respond to those situations in anger or frustration only makes matters worse.
How do you deal with emotional pain? The kind of pain that sits in your heart and occasionally (sometimes without warning) breaks your heart just a little bit, and you feel an overwhelming urge to cry. Many of us can relate to that.
It must be a huge relief for the members of a jury when an eight-week trial ends, but even so, it's not often that half-a-dozen jurors dissolve into tears and sobs in the courtroom immediately after announcing their verdict. Yet that's exactly what happened at the end of the David and Collet Stephan trial, and it gives us an opportunity to discuss how Canada's legal system may be failing jurors.
"I tried to hold her hand when she wasn't expecting it."