And if you make others laugh, you're gold.
In chatting with my newly separated friends who are ready to start anew, definite themes have emerged.
We can choose to prioritize human connections over virtual ones this coming year.
Sometimes even before they begin.
Personality really is everything.
Sorry, but it's true.
For the most part, the sea is full of fish.
Try taking a break first.
Remember, it's the thought that counts.
Despite retaining my "anti social in style" persona, I've been interrupted more times than I can count by men telling me to take off my headphones so that they can talk to me. There have been times when they have literally jumped in front of me and blocked my path so that we could just "have a conversation" (and it's always the same one). The whole interaction is not just annoying; it often borders on invasive.
I could talk about periods all day but today I'm going to focus the menstrual cycle and dating. Imagine tracking these days and realigning your schedule to ensure you have time to give yourself space, love, baths, hot water bottles, romantic movies to cry your face off to privately.
Because you just can't fake feelings.
Save the fun stuff for your second date.
True love is hard people.
The right man for an ambitious woman is the type who is inspired, impressed and excited by her achievements and her goals, and who has interests of his own to share with you. He should be supportive and encouraging and never make you feel guilty about the time and energy you spend at work.
Even if you've been chatting on various dating apps such as Tinder or Zoosk, meeting an actual human being in the flesh is completely different than online banter. The skills that make us good at online communication don't translate into the real world, and "relationships" online can have very little to do with real-life connections.
Life will often gift us with an opportunity for deeper self-knowledge through experiences that will produce pain, suffering and despair. These can be great motivators for change if we are courageous enough to actually listen to what life is saying so that we can learn from the lessons at hand.
If you're unhappy in your relationship and you've tried unsuccessfully to make it work, you're only prolonging your misery by not ending things. People tend to indulge in a lot of false hope that a person or situation will change, but if you've tried and tried and your relationship is no better, maybe it's time to cut your losses and get out.
Unconditional love is hard, it can be uncomfortable and frustrating at times, but in the end I believe it will be the most rewarding practice you can do for yourself and select loved ones. I say select loved ones, as this type of love doesn't mean to neglect self-care or selfishness.
As humans we share an innate desire to connect with others. However, not all people seek to connect for the same reasons, or in the same way. Some people choose to connect a little. While some people need to connect a lot.