When men can't cry, that's the beginning of our problems.
The old me often got frustrated when my kids cried. Now, I realize that frustration came from a lack of knowledge of how to deal with emotions.
Ah, summertime, when the living is easy. It's hard not to feel happy during the warmer months. But what if life could feel summer-good all the time? Summer is a wonderful time to put in place some spiritual practices that will serve you well all year long. Here are 10 ways to get started.
The limbic alarm is a system is deep inside the brain that is constantly on the lookout for safety or threats, and sends us into fight-or-flight when it senses the latter. If we try to reason with a child when their alarm has been triggered -- get them to see that they are distorting the problem -- they won't be able to process what we're trying to explain. In fact, whatever we're saying to reassure them, no matter how reasonable, can actually be another stress.
Too many of us let "brain propaganda" highjack our lives. You know what I am talking about: "Who cares if I hit the snooze button and miss my workout just this once?" Or, "I can eat this cake - what does it matter?" Or, "Why even try to lose weight... I am just going to fail. I can't do anything right."
I am in a course on "Mindful Self-Compassion". I wish you could be there with me. After the very first session, I noticed
I am not arguing that to be successful you need to eradicate unhelpful thoughts, cravings, and urges altogether. That goal is unrealistic and simply sets you up for failure. Having desires makes you human. I love training and I still sometimes want to skip it. Instead, learn how to manage cravings and urges.
The youth of any society constitute the promise of the future -- and many of our youth are in trouble. They are growing up in a divided society with ethnic, gender and political tensions at seemingly combustible proportions -- not just south of the border, but in Canada too.
As a Therapist I have developed a philosophy by which I practice therapy, and live my life. This is the MORE philosophy. MORE