You might be a bit of a psychopath.
You dated someone. You broke up. At some point you started sleeping with them again, but you never "got back together." You knew this wasn't a great idea, but you did it anyways. Sound familiar?
We spend too much time worrying about stuff we can't control, like our partner's attraction to other people. Perhaps the smarter strategy is to dedicate more time to stuff we can control. Once trust is established, nothing will faze you. And if there is a little bit of competition? I say, bring it on.
It's just so typical. You spend all this time complaining about being single, and then when you find a great new guy you start freaking out! All your old baggage starts reappearing, and you're not quite sure how to deal. Follow these tips, from self-reflection questions to a mock-conversation with your partner, to banish the past where it belongs!
In the weeks after my first real heartbreak, I made an effort to spend time with my ex in a misguided attempt to prove that, despite being brutally dumped, I was still awesome. He couldn't care less; he had already started dating someone else. But being around the source of my rage was eating me alive.
The zen master in me wants to put on a soothing voice and say that everything happens for a reason, that we learn from our pasts, and that pain can be a teacher. But let's talk instead about the ways of doing it with class; ways that make it hurt less and leave the door open to friendship. Maybe not right away, but eventually.
While I have never been married, and certainly hope never to divorce, I have had my share of failed relationships and rejections. As I reflect back on my own past relationships failures, I can honestly say there is no one that I wish I was still with. In fact, I've found myself thanking God that they are out of my life.
Living better is often based on clichéd advice and I think it's time to put a stop to it, because frankly, there's some advice, especially when it comes to relationships, that needs to be taken with a grain, heck, make that a whole block, of salt.