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failure
Winning gold didn't bring a happy ending for the skier.
When they do, the life lesson is to accept it, learn from it, learn to live with it, move on and carry it softly.
If we try (by applying for that job, going to the gym or doing something outside of our comfort zone) and don't achieve a 100 per cent success rate, we deem ourselves to have failed. Stop comparing yourself to what society says you should be, and instead create your own measurement system.
I want them to know there's merit trying. The cross country season has passed us by, but there are still spelling tests, math tests, hockey games, baseball tryouts and track and field. They won't win every game. They won't make every team. But they will try again. I know they can.
It seems like everyone else is scoring and you can't even find the end zone. How can you work so hard to get embarrassed and beaten down in this manner? We have to keep teaching ourselves how to deal with losing. How to be disappointed that it didn't work out how we expected.
Many people in corporate roles fantasize about breaking free and launching an entrepreneurial venture. Three years ago I took the plunge and did just that, leaving behind a senior role in management consulting to start a talent marketplace for freelance consultants. Unfortunately, my business model didn't gain traction, but the experience was the best thing that ever happened to me professionally speaking.
The opposite of "success" is NOT failure. If you don't succeed -- you have GAINED a learning opportunity.
You want whatever you're doing to be perfect, and you get so disappointed and annoyed when the vision in your head doesn't match the reality. I know you, my love, and I know that it's so frustrating for you when things don't go right, when you are not living up to your own very high expectations for yourself.
All of us face disappointment at some time in our lives but like everything else that is often beyond our control, it's what we do with it that can change the outcome. While it may not feel it right now, this could be the best thing that has happened to you and the universe is telling you something, so pay attention to the doors that may be opening for you.
Changing something about your life is a big deal. You might not nail it the first time you try. In fact, you may never be perfect at this thing you want. That's a good thing! A serious mark of strength in a person is the ability to get up off the ground and try again and again.
