Free Range Parenting
"Put away your cowbells. They don't belong in the arena."
They should be able to confidently navigate independent situations. Being able to ask other adults for help, ordering fries from a fast food counter, helping a younger child at the playground, figuring out their own boundaries -- this all takes practice.
Alyson Schafer on how over-protective parents are doing more harm than good.
Whether you're more of a bench-warmer, or a helicopter, or a free-ranger, or an anything else, how about we let the labels go and appreciate our complementary styles? Instead of getting annoyed when I see you actively play at the park, with your kids or mine, I'll think how great it is that you're enjoying your day with your lucky child.
Everyone can build their case for and against "safety first" if they want to. The feelings this couple has are personal to them. However, the minute they let their children out on the street it is no longer just them involved in the scenario -- it is now about the children and the world at large.
I've been reading about helicopter versus free range parenting for years now. They don't get the time or space to explore their neighbourhoods by themselves and learn independence in the process. If there was ever a question about which side I'd take, helicopter or free-range, I'd already long decided to be free-range. But it's not that easy.
There are parenting methods that are known to be detrimental if not downright damaging to a child. Try doing these and you'll more or less guarantee that your child will grow up to be a person who, let's say, won't be the most well-liked or respected in their social circle.
I turn to my daughter. She is 14, and busy perfecting the act of looking at once both pensive and haughty. Finally she admits something. "I'm thinking about the bus. You said you wanted to teach me to ride the public bus. That I need to be more independent." I did say that...
It's amazing we grow into healthy adults at all when you consider the mistakes we make raising our kids. Like feeding them rice cereal at six months, for example. That's no longer allowed, according to the latest in parenting news that came from a statement released by Health Canada last week.