You might say this is a classic case of the blind leading the blind. What I offer you here are pearls of wisdom after 15 years of marriage and seven years of being a divorced single parent. Had I known then what I know now, perhaps my happily ever after would have happened the first time around.

We all have the freedom to skip the ceremony, share some living space, and leave it at that -- but what if that doesn't cut it for you? What if you need to stand in a church, on a beach, in front of a priest or a justice of the peace, and actually marry the person you love? Well, that's OK too, and here's why.

As a men's image consultant, it is my job to transform men into their genuine selves, not the men society demands. When I first met Ted, he talked about his failed marriage and his imminent divorce. He said he numbed out and lost 20 pounds of muscle after his wife told him about her affair. Ted was a wounded man but he was ready to change. He just didn't know how.