Communication is key.
A wonderful piece of research asked an eclectic group of participants about the qualities of great sex. I had jotted down the list of the common themes that emerged, tucked it away and then forgotten where I'd seen it. You may want to compare my take on these themes with the original research.
The pressure of getting a long-lasting erection or having a big enough penis can become such a focus to a man (and his partner) that it dominates his experience, not allowing him (or his lover) to be present, connected, and all of the other things necessary for an amazing sexual experience.
Irate mommies chastise Rebecca Eckler for relying on nannies, encouraging Rowan to ditch school, outsourcing Rowan's bike lessons, and for avoiding changing Holt's smelly diapers for months. What these mommies don't get is that at the core of Eckler's unconventional parenting, is her extreme love for and devotion to her children.