Discussing emotional boundaries was one of the healthiest conversations my husband and I have ever had.
Cheating isn't the only way a lover can violate your trust.
There are soap opera level twists in her story.
Something is either cheating or it isn't; calling an action micro-cheating is total nonsense, and complicating something for nothing.
If we can admit that a connection with another partner might not irreparably harm our primary relationship, our relationships might be longer and better.
While men have a less specific window.
It all began as an occasional after-hours and work-related text from one of her husband's female co-workers. Soon, the texts began to come more frequently, often late at night. Then she found several naked pictures that the female co-worker had sent to him.
Keep some tissues nearby, 'cause this video is heartbreaking.
But it doesn't have to mean your relationship is over.
It was a novel suggestion. What would I say to my former spouse if given the opportunity? We haven't spoken in nearly two decades. Twenty five years of marriage is so far behind me now that most of my life has been without him. I grew up after he left, a painful but invigorating process.
Finding out that your husband or wife has been unfaithful isn't just a time of profound heartbreak and shock, it's also a time of intense confusion. There are so many unanswered questions and so many overwhelming emotions. Unfortunately, not all unfaithful partners will react with honesty, humility or empathy when their betrayal is discovered.
My close friend Shelley -- a 38-year-old divorced mom and full-time student -- was sitting alone in a Calgary cafe when conversation
My former spouse had entered out marriage dishonestly. Other than words, there was no "forsaking all others" honoured in our wedding vows. The truth was finally revealed very much later on our 25th wedding anniversary. Were we destined to divorce or were there other factors?
If you don't know who the other woman or man is, you may be painfully curious --iIs the other person more attractive than me? What did my partner see in him or her? You may think that confronting them will make them back off or that they might tell you certain details of the affair that your spouse will not reveal. But it's never that simple.
The realization that technology has truly changed the dynamic of relationships in any tech-friendly area of the world these days. Gone are the days of monogamy and trust. It's just all too easy to cyber cheat, or to have computer, phone and tablet screens hide the dirty work of actual cheat cheating. Where do you draw the line?
Too often, an unfaithful spouse whose affair has been discovered will continue to see and/or contact their affair partner. Sometimes this is done in secret. They may assure their spouse that they've ended the affair; however, their lack of transparency and untrustworthy behaviour indicates otherwise.
The truth is, many opposite-sex friendships are sustained because of a simmering attraction between two people. If circumstances were different, they could easily be sexual partners. And they know it. This underlying current of attraction makes talking, texting and spending time together as "just friends" all the more exciting. It has an erotic edge to it.
Ever get this nagging feeling that your man is pulling away from you, but you don't know why? Your mind creates vivid images about him spending time with another woman because somewhere deep down inside you don't feel good enough for him. If this is something you're experiencing, then your man is dating an insecure woman.
She's got everything: beauty, talent, money. She's in the best possible position to get divorced. Why would she allow someone to hurt her the way she has? Why would she just sing about her husband's betrayal when she could kick him to the curb? What message is she sending the rest of us if she decides to stay with someone who has deceived her?
Listening to a friend talk about their divorce, I pause and think -- this all sounds familiar. My friend details the lead up to her separation and there are so many similarities it's a bit unnerving. Same actions, same words, same behaviour. How is that possible? Turns out similarities are not even unusual but predictable, right down to the language a departing spouse might use.