“After I testified, I felt like I had to go up to every person in the world and apologize for ruining the case.”

If men do nothing to change how we, as a gender, treat women, then I believe women are always going to live with some level of fear and imposed inferiority. What I wish for most is that men stop perceiving sexual harassment and abuse as a women's issue, and realize that both genders need to be active in fixing things, because until that happens, things can't change.

I started by telling you about my own experience in the world of abuse. I did this because those experiences are what helped me understand the importance of healing in light of a frightening situation. These women -- our sisters -- need our support and understanding to heal. But we cannot forget the men. At some point we are going to have to turn around and help heal this man. Many will think he is undeserving, but he too experienced trauma in his life which he has had to cope with. I'm not talking about forgiveness, I'm talking about compassion.