I am judging you if you are barking orders at your partner. That person is not your slave. Their role is to help you, support you and guide you. There was a time, before stress, when you were loving and kind, which is why you are together. Get back to that. Your life will be better.
Being a mom is a hard job and it is one that you have for life. The ups and downs are challenging enough and on top of that you have to deal with unsolicited advice and some very rude questions from "well-meaning" strangers.
While we can't control what others think of us, what we can control is how we react. So how do we get over this fierce judgment we place on ourselves? Part, I am sure is letting go of perfectionism, lowering our expectations and realizing if you have done your best, that should be enough. I know, easier said than done.
As you progress through medical training, you can often become a bit cynical and jaded, and next thing you know, you start making assumptions when you walk into a room. Unfortunately, we have all been guilty of passing judgment at some point in time. How can we stop ourselves, and others, from passing judgment?
I don't know about you, but every time I turn around, there it is. A message about what I, The Mother, should be doing. Or rather, shouldn't be doing. Enlighten me, if you will. What are The Rules?