Toronto might not be getting a "brothel" anytime soon, but sex dolls aren't going away.
Good sex therapy allows you to feel empowered and validated in your sexuality. Don't settle for less.
Whether it's a one-time thing or a long-term committed relationship, there are three prerequisites to any sexual activity: consent, safety and pleasure. There is no way around it: communication is key. For some people, this feels entirely natural; for others, they'd rather visit the dentist.
Each couple deals with sexual compatibility a little differently. Some will seek help early, and some will live with sexual incompatibilities for many years before they make a change. No matter which stage you are in, a sexual incompatibility can make or break a relationship. And how to navigate when to get professional help is key.
The pressure of getting a long-lasting erection or having a big enough penis can become such a focus to a man (and his partner) that it dominates his experience, not allowing him (or his lover) to be present, connected, and all of the other things necessary for an amazing sexual experience.
When people encounter a physical problem, they often discuss it first with their family physician. Those doctors often refer to specialists who have focused training and expertise. Sex therapists are one of these specialists and here's how they can work in tandem with your doctor.
I remember being careful with my clients, forming my questions and responses so as not to challenge them. But sometimes, after a session, I felt rather inauthentic. I knew that what I was thinking and what I was speaking were offset by "niceness."
I knew as soon as the words came out of my mouth that I was in for a hassle. I was just trying to be honest. After all, isn't that the best policy when you're crossing the border into the U.S.? Well, maybe not if you're en route to speak at a sex toy party convention.
I think the trick to defining sex addiction is to determine 'normal' sexual pursuits. This is an exercise in subjectivity as every person has their own comfort level and preference: some people want sex three times a day (or more), some have exotic tastes, and others favour vanilla sex.