Men can re-learn new rituals and practices to normalize showing love.
There's a loneliness crisis among men.
You want whatever you're doing to be perfect, and you get so disappointed and annoyed when the vision in your head doesn't match the reality. I know you, my love, and I know that it's so frustrating for you when things don't go right, when you are not living up to your own very high expectations for yourself.
A while ago I wrote a blog post about authenticity, you know being your true self no matter what. I worked on it off and
Running your own business is pretty fucking sweet, no question. But let's keep it real, people. Entrepreneurship is also challenging, humbling, and exhausting, especially when you're just starting out. What can you expect in your first year of business? Here's the naked truth about mine...
I am not saying that we should not strive to be the very best people and professionals we can be. This is not a call to "lean out." By all means, let's strive to be amazing, but let's also aspire to be more gentle with ourselves and with others.
Whether it's making amends with a colleague, asking for a raise, requesting help, admitting you don't understand, or going for the promotion, good things can happen when you take down your walls. Yes, bad things can happen too, and there is the risk of disappointment.
1. Do not, under any circumstances, stop singing or roll up your windows when you pull up at a stoplight next to another car. Let 'em hear you sing! Let 'em know that even in 2014, you still listen to Color Me Badd.
If we are going to impact the world for the better, we must tell our stories. In fact it's the most important story we can tell. Your story has the power to change misconstrued perceptions, ritualistic rules and most of all the world for the better.
If you do a favour for someone, do you keep an internal tally card tracking who has done what for who and then feel abused when the person or company doesn't reciprocate? You wouldn't be alone. But authors Bob Burg and John David Mann point out in their book, The Go-Giver, that it is the giving without thought of a return that really counts.