I've dealt with many different types of depression, especially since I've battled it since I was a teenager. 'Situational' Depression when my Dad and Grandfather died. Manic Depression when I attempted suicide. I have even dealt with Prepartum and Postpartum Depression. One thing that I have learned while dealing with all of this is that no one truly understands depression unless they have personally been depressed, themselves. And even then, it's kind of iffy.
Living with depression is hard. But, it's even harder when people just don't understand.
1. Depression can come out of nowhere.
And for no reason at all. Right now, at this moment, I have no idea why I'm depressed. I just am. I really have nothing to be sad about but, yet, I have a hard time being happy. There are different types of depression, though, and many things can trigger it.
2. Don't Say "Just Be Happy" or "Get Over It".
This is probably one of the most ignorant things you could say to someone who's depressed. No one WANTS to be depressed. If it were as simple as flipping a switch, do you really think anyone would ever be depressed? I know I wouldn't. I hate being depressed. And, I can't think of one person who actually enjoys it.
3. No, I don't want to talk about it.
Especially with someone who doesn't understand depression. It may just be me but, I don't like to talk about how I'm feeling. Talking about it doesn't make me feel better. Talking about it makes me cry. Which is what I try to avoid doing 99% of the time. I don't like to say how I feel out loud because that makes my feelings even more real. Some people suffer better in silence. And that's okay with me.
4. People that are depressed are not looking for attention.
It's quite the opposite, actually. Depression makes me totally anti-social. Most of the time I just want to be left alone. Attention would only cause me to have unnecessary panic attacks, which is also, no fun at all. Please, do not tell someone who's depressed that they are just saying that because they want attention. Nothing about being depressed makes you want attention.
5. Living with depression is exhausting.
Both, mentally and physically. Some days, it takes all that I have just to get out of bed. Everyday tasks may feel like nothing for normal people but, for people with depression (who, more than likely suffer from insomnia or even hypersomnia, also), tasks like that can seem debilitating.
6. We know it's not the end of the world.
We also know that the grass isn't always greener on the other side and that some people have it worse than us. Saying any of these statements will not make us "snap out of it" and get better. Saying negative things like this can only contribute to our negative feelings. Which we have no control over. They're just there.
What people with depression need to hear is that they have a support system. We need to hear that you are there if we ever want to talk.
7. Just because I take medication, doesn't mean I'm supposed to be happy.
It's not a little magic pill that makes you happy the second you take it. It may not even make you happy after taking it for months. That's not the point of the medication. Antidepressants work by rebalancing chemistry in the brain that affects mood and emotions. And, that takes time.
8. Having a good day doesn't mean we are no longer depressed.
I have lots of good days. I also laugh a lot. That doesn't mean that my depression's cured or even in the process. Having a good day means just that, a good day. Yes, good days are awesome to have but, sometimes they're few and far between. The good days are what help me get through the mind-numbingly bad days.
9. We often feel like an inconvenience.
I know that I can be hard to deal with, and I hate being a burden. Which is why I usually isolate myself from the world, and never talk about my feelings. This is my problem, so I will deal with it on my own is usually how I feel. But, there are sometimes when we get caught off-guard, and people notice that something isn't right. This is when we need people to be compassionate. Especially, if we allow ourselves to open up to you.
10. Not All Depressed People Are Suicidal.
Suicide and Depression may go hand in hand, but that does not mean that people who are depressed are suicidal. Sometimes life just sucks, and you can't shake it. Sometimes it unbearable. But, being suicidal is a totally different ballgame.
With that being said, suicidal thoughts should never be taken lightly. Reach out and talk to someone close to you. Hell, send me a message. I am available to talk to all of you, beautiful people. I've been there and it sucks. You don't have to go through it alone.
I'm no therapist
But I promise you this:
I will listen.
I will care.
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