Every bride out there knows that wedding planning can be challenging at times. Some brides would even go as far as saying they became a different person and did things they never thought they would do while planning their wedding. Handling all of the emotions that come with being a bride-to-be can take many girls by surprise. Even if you are able to stay cool and enjoy the planning process, there will be times where you feel a little stressed and overwhelmed.
Affirmations are a great tool when it comes to helping you remember what’s important. You might think it’s corny to repeat these phrases to yourself, but trust me, it doesn’t hurt to try. Use these mantras to help you get through the wedding crazies.
I will not blow my budget.
Say this one twice – I will not blow my budget. In other words, you won’t stray from your original plan when you see something new, bigger and better. I’m not talking changing your mind on a color choice or deciding to add a certain flower to your wedding bouquet. I’m talking huge budget busters like buying a wedding gown you know you can’t afford or adding to your décor plan because you saw a tablescape you just had to have at a wedding trade show. Never ever buy on impulse. Think it over, look at the grand scheme of things, and stick to your budget. You’ll thank yourself one day, and so will your fiancé.
I will listen to my partner’s opinions.
I always say wedding planning is great practice for marriage. This is your fiancé’s wedding too, and he has a say. Regardless if you think his ideas are tacky or he’s over reacting about the costs. Compromising for both of you on the details is important because the alternative creates resentment and hurt feelings.
I will respect the needs of my parents and future in-laws.
Remember, your parents have been dreaming of your wedding since the day you were born. It’s a big day for them as well and they have been looking forward to this for a very long time. Showing them respect in regards to traditions and their opinions goes a long way.
I will be thankful.
This will be a big year for you and your fiancé, as well as your parents, siblings, close friends and family. They will be asked to throw bridal showers and engagement parties, purchase bridesmaid dresses, and take some of their time away from their personal lives to help with the planning of your wedding. Showing heartfelt gratitude will go a long way in making everyone feel appreciated.
I will not feed into the drama.
Everyone knows that one person who likes to create drama, and if you don’t know who it is, that person might be you. All joking aside, try to keep drama to a minimum. If that one bridesmaid is always calling to complain about the other maids don’t get into a bitch fest with her – try to explain the other person’s point of view and don’t let the conversation continue in a negative way.
I will stay positive.
Similar to the point above, try not to let any drama or family dynamics get you down. Every bride deals with this – and you have a choice. You can either feed into the negativity, or you can choose to ignore it. Remember, you set the tone. Don’t sweat the small stuff and focus on what’s going right, not what’s going wrong.
I will forgive.
Weddings tend to bring up emotions and feelings that may have been hidden under the surface for years. Don’t hold a grudge – no one is perfect. Take the high road not for the other person, but for yourself and your fiancé so that you can move forward and enjoy this important time in your life. How you think back on your wedding day is up to you, and continuing to be upset with someone will just interfere with your happiness.
I will be a gracious host.
Your wedding will be the biggest party you will ever plan. As the host, it is your responsibility to make your guests feel welcome and comfortable. Putting your guests first will greatly improve the energy for your wedding day. Having a diva attitude that your guests owe you something is the fastest way to pulling the plug on a celebratory atmosphere.
I will take care of myself.
Wedding planning can be stressful and exhausting. Taking care of yourself by eating right, exercising and keeping up with your yoga practice will help you feel more grateful and will put you in a positive frame of mind – something you definitely need to get you through the journey of planning your wedding.
I will understand that the world does not revolve around my wedding.
Yes, it’s ok to be excited about your wedding. Yes, it’s a huge deal for you and your fiancé. No, it is not the only event happening in the world. People have their own lives to live and have their own plans to accomplish. Expecting people to stop what they are doing to accommodate your wedding is not only unrealistic, it’s super rude. Don’t be that bride.
I will remember what this day is all about.
Don’t fall into the pressure that society puts on brides to plan the ideal wedding. A wedding is a chance to celebrate your love and commitment. It’s a way to create fond memories and to build on family traditions. Don’t worry about it being perfect, because it won’t be. If at the end of the day you are married to the one you love and your heart smiles from the joy of it all, then mission accomplished.