By Laura Lifshitz
Everyone expresses love to their partner differently, but Type A people have their own particular ways of showing the people they love a little TLC.
Our minds are busy thinking of a million ways to do everything just right and sometimes it's plain exhausting. Of course, as the object of a Type A's affection, you'll always feel loved and adored.
The little things you told us that you thought no one would remember? We remember. That dream wish or vacation you've been talking about for years, but haven't gotten off the ground? Your Type A love will make it happen effortlessly.
Type As are over-achievers and that translates into love -- and if you're lucky, even in the bedroom. Here's how we love differently:
1. We have a method to our gift-giving madness.
We want others to acknowledge us during our special moments, so we give back the same precise attention when it comes time for a lover's birthday or other celebration. Expect your Type A Babe or Man to ask you what you want, and in detail.
To us, a gift is an important way to say "I love you," and we don't want to make a risky choice. If that means a gift card over picking up some potentially offensive trinket, we will go with the boring gift card.
2. We don't show our love quietly.
That doesn't mean we will stand in Grand Central Station with a bullhorn screaming our undying love to passersby, but it means that we're typically affectionate and go out of our way to make a declaration of love. It might be frequent touches, presents, or emails; we aren't exactly the timid or lazy type when it comes to expression.
3. We beat ourselves up over mistakes.
When your Type A partner hurts you or does something to upset you, it's a hard pill for us to swallow. We want things to be just right -- let's just say we didn't take getting anything less than an A in school very easily, so we take our mishaps to heart.
Be kind when delivering the news and expect that we may try to overcompensate for our mistake for a while in order to win back that "A" rating. That means we may bring on the romance and affection in droves. And as we spend time trying to win back your affection, we're cursing ourselves for that one mistake we made.
4. We're great social directors.
Your Type A paramour will easily navigate, plan, and invite people into your life like a professional cruise director. This doesn't mean he or she will be an absolute extrovert, but social events and plans will typically go off without a hitch.
So put on your party hat and be prepared to meet a ton of people, because your Type A lover knows how to mingle and mix like a pro.
5. We show strong leadership skills, but we're also bossy as hell.
I hate to say it as a Type A person myself, but we can be bossy. We enjoy leading and don't often want to sit on the sidelines in some secondary role. That makes us fantastic at reaching goals and making headway -- but it also makes us awfully fabulous at butting in with our two cents.
6. We HATE not being in control.
We like to lead, and that stems from the fact that it's easy for us to do so and hard to watch others struggle in that role. If you want your Type A partner to take a step back, explain that doing so will give him or her a chance to focus energies on another project and give someone else a chance to shine. Oh, and maybe relax a little.
7. We don't know how to relax without a little coaxing.
If you're looking forward to a relaxing day with your Type A partner, expect that he or she may need some prep to make this happen. Taking time off from goals and doing nothing all day is totally counter-intuitive to the Type A personality.
You may have to dole out a few massages in order for your lover to become at ease with the whole "relaxing" (aka doing nothing) thing all day. Sure, your partner will plan the perfect Caribbean vacation and relax while on the sunny beaches, but a regular day-in-the-life lazy day isn't as easy a feat.
8. We take a while to shut down our brains in the bedroom.
If you've got a very tightly wound Type A lover, expect he or she to take a bit longer to climax from time to time. This may mean some good foreplay beforehand, or other erotic or romantic touches in order to reach that ultimate "O." This is because your Type A's brain takes longer to shut off, so make those love-making sessions a bit longer to really rev up his or her engine.
9. We absolutely LOVE pleasing our partner.
If you're struggling to orgasm, your Type A bedmate will do whatever it takes to make your release happen. If you thought your Type A partner was simply competitive in the real world, there's no way a Type A will let his or her partner take a loss in the bedroom either.
A Type A person wants to be the best in all fields, so enjoy that desire to please and prepare for pleasure.
10. We're too competitive for our own good.
Type As are competitive folks and don't tolerate losing very well, which means they take rejections, set-backs and losses very hard. Expect your Type A lover to harbor some physical ailments from the stress of loss or rejection, so be empathetic.
11. We argue like lawyers when we're fighting.
Be prepared for a fight and line up all of your points logically when arguing with your Type A partner. Type A folks aren't meaner or more irascible than the general population, but their competitive streak makes them adept at arguing like trial lawyers.
12. We're don't like surprises or last-minute ideas.
Type As are organized. If you live with us and love us, your place is a fine and well-oiled machine. If you need something done, your Type A will do it and leave no stone unturned.
But if you want to spring a last-minute trip or idea on your Type A babe or beau, expect some initial resistance, unless it's a romantic endeavor or a way to further a Type As career or personal agenda. Still, even if it's a career opportunity or trip to Hawaii, a Type A will initially panic at the lack of preparation until he or she realizes that a gem has been placed in his or her hands.
This article originally appeared on YourTango.
