16 Things Women Wish Men Would Do On Dates

The next level of Candy Crush can wait, guys.
Vincent Besnault via Getty Images

Dating after divorce is a scary, scary prospect. Between crotch shots from random dudes on Tinder to rants about ex-wives on dates, is it any wonder that so many of us throw in the towel and say "thanks, but no thanks" to getting back out there?

It's time to raise the bar, gentlemen. To that end, we asked our readers on HuffPost Divorce's Facebook page to share the one thing they wish more men would do before, during and after dates.

Read what they had to say below:

1. "Be ready to talk and don't ask 'where is this heading?'" -- Denise Robinson

2. "Dating is nerve-wracking! I wish guys would admit that they're a wreck, too. It's nice to know I'm not the only one sweating." -- Kasey Ferris
3. "Don't talk about your sex life -- or lack thereof -- on the first date." -- Lori Shively
4. "Let me pick up the check sometimes. My first date with my now ex-husband was a pleasant surprise; he wouldn't let me pay for my dinner but he let me buy us both coffee afterward. It felt like he saw me more as an equal than someone he was expected to take care of." -- Kate Fruehling
5. "Be honest about who you are and what type of relationship you're looking for and are capable of having." -- Vicki Richards
6. "Hold doors open for me. Pull out my chair!" -- Amy Mudd
7. "Don't examine the bill when you get it. I already feel bad enough that you're paying, let's not make it awkward too." -- Renee Hamilton

8. "Candy Crush can wait. Just sayin.'" -- Kimberly McGrain

9. "Please, no d*ck pics beforehand." -- Kelly Connolly

10. "Be yourself and have no ulterior motives. Just enjoy the encounter with another human being, without hidden agendas or stupid games." -- Ana Nita

11. "Don't discuss your negative opinions about monogamy. So many divorced men have this anti-relationship mindset and love to vocalize it. It may be because they aren't taking enough time to heal from their breakup. Whatever the case may be, asking me out and then slamming the idea of relationships is unsexy and probably won't get you a second date. (Or laid, if that's what you're after.)" -- Kimberly McGrain

12. "Listen to my response after you ask a question. Make real conversation with lots of give and take. Good conversation is the best." -- Kate Winter Davis

13. "Appreciate the date. Single men in their 40s act like women have to accept scraps. As if they're our last hope, saving us from a life of spinsterhood!" -- Kathi Williams Robinson
14. "Ask us out on a date. I don't want to 'hang out' or 'chill.' I'm a grown woman." -- Heidi Beale
15. "On the date, treat us like a priority, not just an option." -- Amy Kuniholm
16. "During the date, refrain from saying, 'I'm better at being single than in a relationship... So do you want to go out again?'" -- Janice Songer
Also on HuffPost:

Brutally Honest Dating Profiles

Before You Go

Popular in the Community