
The first time I remember being catcalled I was 16 years old walking from the parking lot to my high school. The parking lot was only three blocks away, but it still gave the two grown men slowly following me in their car enough time to repeatedly ask me what grade I was in.
Almost 10 years later, I still remember that day. I still remember what I was wearing. I still remember feeling every inch of my body burn hot with shame as I felt their eyes on me.
This experience is all too common for women. And it usually starts at a young age.
In an interview published Wednesday, 14-year-old "Girl Meets World" actress Rowan Blanchard revealed that her feminist activism was sparked after a similar encounter she had with a man at just 12 years old.
"I remember I was at a movie with my friend, and we were both in skirts... We were waiting outside the movies for my dad to pick us up, and this grown man came over and was like, 'You guys need a ride anywhere?' I was 12 years old and my friend was 15," Blanchard told Interview Magazine. "I always see girls getting catcalled. But up until that point, I hadn’t experienced it. And it was like I was out-of-body for a second."
Blanchard's story immediately resonated with me. I remember the realization I had that day walking to school: Wow, so this is what happens? This is what women go through. It was hard to understand at the time because I was not a woman -- I was a child.
I wanted to know if other women felt the same way Blanchard and I did the first time we were catcalled. So I asked women on Twitter to share their stories using the hashtag #FirstTimeIWasCatcalled.
Hundreds of women responded to my callout with heartbreaking stories. Many of the women shared my experience, but most detailed stories of harassment when they were much younger than 16.
As Julie Zeilinger, founder of feminist blog The F Bomb, pointed out on Twitter: 85 percent of women report being harassed before the age of 17 and 67 percent of women are harassed before the age of 14.
Here are just a few of the heart-wrenching stories women shared using #FirstTimeIWasCatcalled.
#FirstTimeIWasCatcalled I was 10, at a family friend's bbq in a swimsuit, it was a drunk dad, who thought he was funny. @rowblanchard
— Joan Marie (@happinessnwrath) March 30, 2016
7. Seven yrs old. Was the #FirstTimeIWasCatcalled walking home in my school uniform & two assholes approached me in a car @rowblanchard.
— Sharisse Tracey (@SharisseTracey) March 30, 2016
I was 11. And it sucked, because I distinctly remember it making me nervous about my body for the first time. #FirstTimeIWasCatcalled
— Rebecca Winson (@rebeccawinson) March 30, 2016
I was 9 crossing the street with my Mom when two older men told me that they could make me into a proper women #FirstTimeIWasCatCalled
— Gaby Perdomo (@thegabyperdomo) March 30, 2016
#FirstTimeIWasCatcalled I was in 1st grade, dancing alone in the rain w/ an umbrella on my front lawn. A man in a car whistled at me.
— Sophia Wallace (@sophiawallace) March 31, 2016
#FirstTimeIWasCatcalled I was very young and very confused. I am no longer young and no longer confused, but just as repulsed as I ever was
— Jess Dickerson (@Jayedilla) March 30, 2016
#FirstTimeIWasCatcalled there's no longer a 'first time' that i remember. it feels like a secret you have to keep -- it's that disgusting.
— Amiellia (@kingamiellia) March 30, 2016
#FirstTimeIWasCatcalled I was 14, maybe 13, and a group of guys kept following my friends and I around a mall, trying to talk to us
— señor el fuego (@WasabiWarR5ior) March 30, 2016
#FirstTimeIWasCatcalled I was 15, near a construction site in NYC w my mom. She said, "Some people's jobs are boring; you're entertainment."
— Rachel Edelman (@rachelsedelman) March 30, 2016
#FirstTimeIWasCatcalled I was 15, waiting for a bus, he approached me&tried to take my glasses bc "you'd be prettier w/o them" @rowblanchard
— Rebecca Eisenberg (@ryeisenberg) March 30, 2016
The #FirstTimeIWasCatCalled, I was 12. Man said "take care of your body" then groped me. I was waiting for my mom after gymnastics practice.
— Alex Berg (@AlexfromPhilly) March 30, 2016
@lannadelgrey 10, exiting elementary school. Older boys. Adults around said nothing to correct the behavior. #firsttimeiwascatcalled
— Rachel C. Lewis (@RachelCharleneL) March 30, 2016
i was 13 and walking with a friend. we were scared and began to act like a "couple" hoping to be left alone. #FirstTimeIWasCatcalled
— kleigh (@girlmeetsmendes) March 30, 2016
#FirstTimeIWasCatcalled @rowblanchard I was 11 when I was at a movie with my friend. A man said, "dang girl look at that ass"
— Priya Bhushan (@Priya_feminist) March 30, 2016
#FirstTimeIWasCatcalled i was nine years old and some man whistled at me and honked his car. ever since ive felt uncomfortable wearingshorts
— aimee bye4now (@sabrinaswago) March 30, 2016
#FirstTimeIWasCatcalled I was eleven years old in the middle of a market crowd, walking past a building site. My dad was walking with me.
— ToWhomI'llAlwaysLove (@DeathIsMercy) March 31, 2016
#FirstTimeIWasCatcalled i think i was 12 or 13 walking around my neighborhood when a car slowed down and 2 middle aged men whistled 😒
— Kayla Rebelo (@misskaylagaga) March 31, 2016
From Blanchard's experience of blatant harassment to other women's experiences with gawking or whistling, these heartbreaking stories reveal the reality all women deal with in public spaces. Street harassment is a subtle yet constant reminder to women that our bodies don't belong to us alone.
The common factor among all these stories is how every woman felt when she was catcalled for the first time: scared, ashamed, disgusted, confused. Women are forced to deal with this harassment at such a young age that it becomes a normal right of passage. And that's unacceptable.
Do you remember the first time you experienced street harassment? Share your story on Twitter with #FirstTimeIWasCatcalled.
Head over to Twitter to read more #FirstTimeIWasCatcalled stories or scroll through the slideshow below.
Need help? In the U.S., visit the National Sexual Assault Online Hotline operated by RAINN. For more resources, visit the National Sexual Violence Resource Center’s website. To learn more about street harassment head over to Hollaback!.