What keeps you awake at night? What is it that's troubling you most these days?
While we all have such problems, I'm learning that the way we respond to the big ones can bury the inherent wisdom we have to deal with them. Meanwhile we live with an undercurrent of fear and anxiety -- or even guilt because we don't know what to do.
For example, I've known for some time that I would write on this topic, but because it's so important to me, I've procrastinated. Then once I started I was stuck, desperately looking for inspiration on the Internet, scribbling thoughts and scratching them out. I came to a standstill. Here I am again, getting in the way of the good I want to provide.
I did find my way, but before I share about that, here are some other folks in similar situations.
- A young woman is tied in knots because her boss refuses to pay her a large sum of money owed to her. She's a person who can solve world-class problems, but this one has her stymied even though she's tried everything.
- Friends are building their dream home. Yet they discovered the floor couldn't be laid because the concrete is still damp, and the day the water was to be connected, they learned it couldn't happen for another month. The wife finally said, we lurch from one disaster to another. Let's just build it and sell!
- A client who's been married twice is determined to find the right man. She's been going on Internet dates, some leading to short-term relationships, but after a time the men stop calling and her desperation is growing.
What can we do? It seems the more we need to have an issue resolved, the more powerless we become to have it happen. Following are the age old secrets, which seem more applicable now than ever before. Read through to consider them and think about what they mean to you.
3 Age Old Secrets for Having Good Come Your Way
These secrets were born centuries ago and are still taught today, so there is nothing new here. Yet we forget them. At the root of each secret is the lesson that it's our own striving, worrying, grasping, and manipulating that get in the way of our seeing the good that's there for us.
1. Let it go. Whether it's our fears concerning things like failing relationships, insufficient finances, serious illness, stalled projects, promises unkept, or concerns about appearance and weight, the disturbance caused by our anxiety keeps the problem in place.
The bottom line is simple:
The good that's coming our way
cannot get through our negative thoughts and actions.
In order to have the relationship I longed for with my husband, I had to give up my stories about him, stop blaming him, and let it all go. None of that mattered, or helped. Only when I let go of all of this chaotic thinking did the loving relationship return.
In any situation when disturbing emotions occur, you must let them go. The nature of the wisdom mind has to be free, not stagnant. Think about wind, think about water, think about air. Let your wishes go, as you would drop a leaf in the river, knowing that it will find its way without your interference.
2. Trust. Only when I stopped worrying about how to write about this important lesson did I become quiet enough to allow the wisdom to shine through. Only when the woman let go of her anxiety about being paid the money she was owed and began trusting that it would find its back to her, did her anxiety about being able to pay her bills dissolve.
Only when my client realized she was squeezing the life out of potential relationships and began to trust she'd meet the right one, did a new man, who's now her husband, give her a call. Trust in yourself. Trust in others. Trust that good is on the way ~ and let go of your need to make it happen.
3. Have faith. Every time you think about the problem you have to resolve, the pain it's causing, and your worry about what to do about it, stop. Only when our friends quit fretting about their building disasters and restored their faith that all would be well, did the concrete dry and the water get connected, all within three days.
All we need do to have good come our way is to let go of our attachment to having it do so. Let it go, trust, and have faith that good is coming. There is nothing for us to do. This may sound crazy but since I awakened to these secrets a year ago, I've seen countless examples of its brilliance in others' lives and in my own.
You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is like an ocean;
if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.
If you find that these ideas make sense, give them a try. I suggest you start by trying them with just one of the problems in front of you and see what happens. What have you got to lose? Do your best to ease away from the effort and anxiety to a place of calm, trust and faith. If you know other ways to have good come your way, I hope my words inspire you to put them into practice.
Frankly I've been astounded at the profound difference these secrets have made in my life, so I share them with you, while remembering to let these words go forward on their own, to the ones who need them.
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