THE BLOG

3 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Dating After a Breakup

Dating is different than it used to be, and you truly may not know what you are looking for at first. Take time to figure it all out before you get serious with someone new.
This post was published on the now-closed HuffPost Contributor platform. Contributors control their own work and posted freely to our site. If you need to flag this entry as abusive, send us an email.

Now that you are divorced or otherwise single, what are you looking for? You've probably been asked that question, or a variation of it many times. Most of us can readily identify what we do not want, but putting a finger on exactly what we're looking for in a partner and/or a relationship is often a difficult task and may change daily.

Below are three questions that you should ask yourself as you're preparing to start dating again.

Question #1- Are you looking for a serious relationship?

If your answer to this question is "yes," then your approach to dating may be different from the tactics used by someone looking for a casual setup.

Questions such as "are you looking to just 'date' or are you looking for a serious relationship" will help you narrow down your search for someone with similar relationship goals. You will discover most will share their intentions, especially if they have been divorced.

Question #2- Are you seeking to date several individuals?

If your answer to this question is "yes," You've set a solid starting point. Sharing this information with the individuals you are considering dating will prevent some very uncomfortable conversations in the future.

Question #3- Are you simply interested in friends with benefits?

If your answer to this question is "yes," honesty is the best way to go. There are many individuals who are not interested in this type of relationship. sharing your intentions upfront will prevent wasted time, and hurt feelings.

Dating is different than it used to be, and you truly may not know what you are looking for at first. Take time to figure it all out before you get serious with someone new.

MORE IN Divorce