3 Steps to a Better Love Life

I’ve been married for over 12 years now and I know my marriage needs constant growth. Loving my wife means taking care of her and us, ensuring our future, guaranteeing our happiness, spending time together, and creating a life where we can experience and grow together.

I want to give you 3 quick tips today to help you in your relationship:

1. Think “Growth”:

Without growth, any entity—whether a dream, a business, or even a race of people—would cease existing. In a relationship, you must continue to grow, and your relationship with your significant other must grow. If any relationship becomes stale, or goes into decline, it is only a matter of time before that relationship will go bad. You must begin to think in terms of “growth”. How can I make my relationship with my spouse closer today? What can I do to build trust today? How can we grow together? For success, start thinking growth.

2. Treat Success as your Duty:

Treating success as optional in whatever area of life is one reason many people never have success. Never view success as optional. In a relationship you must demand success from yourself and never treat being an average partner as something ok. If you already make providing your rent or mortgage a necessity, why not think about being a great partner a necessity?

Make having a successful marriage as necessary as food and shelter. - Grant Cardone

3. Be Persistent:

Many view success as something that can happen “overnight”. Yet success always comes as a result of earlier actions—no matter how seemingly insignificant. Success isn’t something that happens to you, it’s something that you cause to happen by the actions you take. The rather unknown athlete that makes a big play in the Super Bowl worked long and hard in training and practice before he “lucked into” being at the right place at the right time. A “successful” relationship does not happen over a single weekend. It takes long hours of consistent actions, being there for your spouse day in and day out. It is actions over time that leads to success.

When I talk about a “successful” relationship, you have to define what that means to you. Your idea of what will make a successful relationship will be different than mine because many of us have different dreams and aspirations, not to mention values, faiths, and upbringings.

The point to remember is that we all desire to have successful relationships—and this always requires growth, treating success as your duty, and being persistent with your actions. Check out my training programs that will keep you growing, pushing, setting new goals and rising to the occasion.

And every week my wife and I drop a brand new episode of The G&E Show.

Be obsessed or be average,


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