3 Truths Well Women Know

USA, New Jersey, Portrait of young woman holding measurement tape
USA, New Jersey, Portrait of young woman holding measurement tape

According to Medical News Today,, "Optimal wellness allows us to achieve our goals and find meaning and purpose in our lives. Wellness combines seven dimensions of well-being into a quality way of living." These seven dimensions include: physical, intellectual, emotional, social, occupational, spiritual, and environmental. While this seems easily grasped on a logical level, sometimes it is easy for one of these areas to become a bit unbalanced.

3) Giving must be balanced with receiving. Some cultures and religions teach it is better to give than receive. But well women understand that there's a yin and a yang between giving and receiving. If one gives, gives, gives, no space exists in one's life to receive, so blessings may not be bestowed in abundance. Gracious giving allows for gracious receiving and receiving benefits both the giver and the receiver.

Take for example the analogy in The Go-Giver by Bob Burg and John David Mann. The "teacher" in the story asks his business pupil to try to exhale for a count of 30. When the pupil gets to 12, "he straightened up and abruptly drew in a big gasping breath." The teacher then says, "You can't just go on exhaling forever... It's not better to give than to receive. It's insane to try to give and not receive."

The Go-Giver authors also use the tides rolling in and out and humans and the rest of the animal kingdom breathing in oxygen and breathing out carbon dioxide so that the plant kingdom can thrive as other examples of the yin and yang to giving and receiving.

2) Health requires an investment in mind, body, and spirit. Many people focus on their health most often when it seems to be failing. But health-conscious people understand that prevention is the key to good health, or as Benjamin Franklin said, "An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure."

According to Medical News Today, the World Health Organization (WHO) in the Preamble to its Constitution in 1948, defined health as "a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity." In 1986 WHO said that "health is a resource for everyday life, not the objective of living. Health is a positive concept emphasizing social and personal resources, as well as physical capabilities."

When we fill our bodies with processed foods and sugary drinks, we have negative health effects (as the movie Super Size Me showed us in the extreme). Many would argue that similar ill health effects occur when we fill our minds with fear and negative, defeating thoughts, and these damage us mentally, physically (by adding stress and causing a weakened immune system and ulcers and spiritually.

Greg Anderson, author and founder of the American Wellness Project, says,"Wellness is a complete integration of body, mind, and spirit--the realization that everything we do, think, feel, and believe has an effect on our well-being." Well women are conscious of this fact and choose foods and beverages, entertainment choices, reading material, exercise practices, and relationships that nourish us.

1) I complete myself. Contrary to the famous quote in Jerry Maguire (and to the Keisha Cole song), well women know that they are complete. If they choose to be a partner, to have children or pets, and to be surrounded by a wealth of friends it isn't because the partner, kids, pets and friends fill a void in them...or to fill a void in someone else. Well women are whole. And it through this wholeness that their individuality shines. (The scientist David Bohm said, "Individuality is only possible if it unfolds from wholeness.")

Well women are at peace alone and at peace with people. They seek out others because of the added dimensions others bring to their lives. And let's face it, some things are more fun in pairs and groups (badminton, backgammon, and basketball, for example).