3 Ways To Love Unconditionally

Choosing to love others unconditionally is a gift we give to ourselves and to others. We are each here to significantly make a difference in some capacity in this life - loving others is one way to do that.
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In a cruel world you have to learn to turn the other cheek and take the high road. You must learn to give of yourself and sacrifice. The first step in loving unconditionally is to love your self first. You cannot give what you do not have. Forgive quickly and take action. Loving others is actionable. Your words mean nothing when your actions say it all. People don't hear what you say because they see what you do. Lastly, don't give up on the people you love. If you do then you are putting conditions on their love. You say to them if you act a certain way then I can love you and if you act a certain way I cannot.

1.Learn To Love Yourself First - You Cannot Give What You Do Not Have

In the process we call life, it is imperative that we learn how to love ourselves and forgive. We simply cannot give others what we don't have within. If you hate yourself or have never really took the time to nurture your inner being - how do you possibly believe you can give it to others. If no one has shown you how to love every aspect of yourself and accept who you are - do you really believe you can give others grace when they screw up? How about the clothing options you wear and the way you speak to yourself? Do you honestly think that if you constantly put yourself down and talk to you inner self with negativity - that you can positively uplift others? How does that even work? How do you forgive others if you don't forgive yourself and ask for forgiveness?

2.Love Is An Actionable Word - Show Love Don't Just Speak It

We must learn to show people that we can for them and will love them unconditionally. We need to show love not say it. Your words will mean nothing to people because they are just words. For example, I do not have a relationship with my Mother and have not for quite a long time. However, on special occasions such as recently, she told me she loved me. I don't believe her words because her actions do not match. She does nothing to show me she loves me unconditionally otherwise we would have a healthy loving relationship. The words she speaks or writes fall on deaf ears until she changes what she says to what she does. Actions actually show people how you feel. There are a million ways to show someone you love them and it doesn't have to cost you a lot of money along the way. Writing notes, packing someone's lunch, calling to make sure they are ok, sending them cards to say you miss them, purchasing a nice gift for them, giving them encouragement, forgiveness is a gift, and the list is endless. Hug your significant others and let them know you are there for them. Endless promises with no follow through isn't unconditional love.

3.Don't Give Up On The People You Love Unconditionally

When it comes to loving others unconditionally - there must not be any conditions. Love isn't to have conditions attached. If you do this then I will love you. No, that isn't how love works. When we truly want to love others then we must not give up on them and make statements where they feel they must be a certain way or they won't receive love. Don't make people feel as though when they make mistakes that you are not going to be there for them any longer. Can you relate? You parents are always getting mad at you for what you consider "dumb stuff" and eventually you begin to feel like a failure and not as loved due to your poor choices. Over time you will also begin to feel less and less confident and eventually you will doubt their love for you. We must give grace to receive grace. We must not give up, no matter what and remember to let the people we care about most know that they are reassured that we are in it for the long journey no matter how hard life gets.

Choosing to love others unconditionally is a gift we give to ourselves and to others. We are each here to significantly make a difference in some capacity in this life - loving others is one way to do that. Using your actions on a continuous basis will let others know you are compassionate about showing them love but also that you won't give up on them when their journey gets tough and they face difficulties. You can be their solid rock that they will need from time to time and vice versa. Don't forget to love yourself first and believe all things are possible. These are the best three ways to love others unconditionally.

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