If 50 is the "new 30" and 40 is the "new 20," I'm not sure where I fit on the age spectrum, but as I mark the beginning of my personal new yaer I took some time to reflect on a few lessons that I've learned along the way. I've gleaned these nuggets through picking myself up after I've fallen; reading countless self-help books; watching TV and Oprah; and by listening to my magnificent mom. One thing is for sure, if you're lucky, with age comes wisdom, confidence and empowerment.
1. Humans are a lot more alike than we are different. We all want to be loved, valued, and appreciated.
2. There's something special to be said about anticipation. Even in the present it's nice to have something to look forward to. So live in the moment, but have something in your back pocket.
3. Life can change in the blink of an eye (for the good or bad) so Carpe Diem.
4. We all need a good cry from time to time.
5. You can't choose your family but you can choose your friends... good friends really do make the world a better place.
6. People come into your life for a reason, season or lifetime.
7. "What do you do?" I'm not sure why that's one of the top three questions people ask each other after being introduced. We are so much more than "what we do."
8. All families have some type of dysfunction, drama or "that" relative so there's no need to be embarrassed or ashamed of your family.
9. Just because a person is your friend it doesn't mean you should travel with them. You can't travel with everyone.
10. When you move in gratitude the realization of what you have to be thankful for is simply amazing and the experiences, people and things you have to be thankful for multiply.
11. There will be crises... identity crises, the quarter life crisis, the everyone's getting married but me crisis, the my husband doesn't understand or appreciate me crisis, the midlife crisis. All crisis are temporary and when put into perspective really first world problems. This too shall pass!
12. The world is small... it use to be six degrees of separation -- now I think there about two degrees separating us from each other. It's astonishing how connected the world is.
13. There's something special about home, where and whatever you consider to be home. Home will and should always hold a special place in your heart.
14. Like Outkast said in their song, Sorry Mrs. Jackson there is a forever, forever ever, forever ever. Some things last an eternity, like trying to maintain a healthy weight. It's a forever lifestyle change when you're an emotional eater and yo-yo dieter like me.
15. Time really does heal all wounds.
16. It's important to have healthy boundaries in your relationships and you have to teach people how to treat you.
17. Yes, there are people you will never like and people that will never like you and it's okay.
18. Every woman needs at least one good girlfriend. Those they say they don't are lying!
19. Opposites attract. Find friends with complementary skills.
20. Youth really is wasted on the young.
21. A broken heart hurts like hell. The pain comes from the dream and plans that are to be unfulfilled or deferred.
22. We get to reinvent ourselves. The person you were in high school is not the person you are today, thank God, and the career you have today doesn't necessarily have to be the career you have for your entire life.
23. Like the caterpillar becomes a butterfly, if we are blessed, we evolve into our truest and best selves. (Sometimes it is not a pretty process.)
24. To be a friend you don't have to talk every day or even once a month... a real friendship can survive the curves, detours, distance and time called life.
25. In the great debate of nature vs. nurture. Nurture gets my vote.
26. The power of laughter... there's healing, release, tears, happiness and joy.
27. Fresh flowers are good for spirit... simple, beautiful and fragrant.
28. A bubble bath, hot shower, scented candle, nap or glass of wine can work wonders!
29. We have to learn to forgive ourselves for past mistakes, regrets and hurts because today is a fresh start with new opportunities.
30. Things may not go as planned but all things work as they should.
31. Some call it surrender. Sometimes you have to let things unfold or as they say... let it do what it do.
32. It's a big, huge and exciting world... travel, visit and explore.
33. Time and chance happen to us all... the key is being prepared when your chance comes.
34. Our parents fibbed. Words do and can hurt, so use them carefully.
35. God, The Universe, The Creator, whomever your higher power is, is so good! Here's to unexpected, undeserved mercy and grace..."AMAZING GRACE how sweet the sound that saved a wretch like me."