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5 Signs That You Are Out of Love

Relationships are not complicated, people are. You enter into romantic relationships with the intention of making a lasting connection. Only to find that every relationship is not intended to last forever. People change and relationships do too.
And if you're like me, you have probably found yourself staying in relationships that have expired. So how do you know when it’s time to leave?

Here are 5 signs that you are out of love:

Sex

If you’re not having sex, the relationship is probably over. It is completely normal for the frequency of sex to ebb and flow. But if you are not doing it at all, there is a problem, a big one. I hear women say things like “sex is not the most important thing in a relationship,” and that’s true. It’s not the most important thing, but it’s one of them. Sex is not just about orgasm, it’s about connection. And if you’re not connecting in the bedroom, odds are you’re disconnected in other ways too. Which brings me to my next point.

Talking

If silence has become a third party in your relationship, that’s a sign. People talk because they’re interested. Humans are communicators, period. You do not have to have marathon conversations with your partner. He does not have to be interested in everything you do, but he should be interested. And you don’t have to care about all his stuff either. But if you find that one or both of you is always too preoccupied to show up for a conversation, it’s time to reevaluate where you are.

Smell

Smell plays a bigger role in relationships than you think. You are not just attracted to your partner’s scent, you are also attracted to the way his/her scent makes you feel. Although it is mostly unconscious, when your relationship is going well your partner smells “better.” When you are in a good space, your partner’s scent makes you feel safe and secure. But when things are getting sour, your awareness of your partners scent changes. You might find that you smell things that you never smelled before. And these changes are often a signal of decreased arousal and attraction.

Logic

If you find that you are searching for reasons to stay, you need to pay attention to that. Your primitive mind is wired to seek safety above all else. So it will come up with reasons to keep you exactly where you are, even if it feels shitty. It’s not that you enjoy feeling shitty, it’s just familiar. So if you’re always weighing the pros and cons, that’s a sign that there is trouble in paradise.

Intuition

Your body always knows everything before you do. And contrary to popular belief, intuition happens in the body not the mind. Your body only communicates in truth. Pay attention to your own body language. If you are constantly crossing your arms and hugging your legs when your partner is around, you are protecting yourself. When you are in a good place your body language is open and free. Your gestures are inviting and unrestricted. When things are not going well, your body will always tell the tale.

Relationships are not created equal, they are all different. But in order for any relationship to work you have to be realistic and honest with yourself about where things stand. If your body is not on board, it won’t be long before your heart abandons ship too. Get real, get clear, and take care of you - first. And know this, sometimes walking away is the best thing you can do, for both of you.

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Stacey is a body love + pleasure advocate for women who are ready to enjoy, explore, and hear the wisdom of their bodies. Her sensuality focused work, helps her clients to be more present and cultivate deeper relationships. Stacey enjoys helping women to bridge the gap between sensuality, sexuality, and spirituality. Because life is meant to be sacred + delicious.