5 Simple Relationship Rules that Really Work.

5 Simple Relationship Rules that Really Work.
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Being in a relationship is a tricky business. It can be the most rewarding thing you have in your life, and at the same time the most challenging if you don’t put enough time and energy into it. Here are 5 important rules for modern couples to improve the way you interact with one another.

1. Compromise.

Looking back, both men and women were assigned a clear role to fulfill. Women were home makers and care givers while men were bread winners in the family. Everyone knew what was expected of them. But in today’s world, modern couples create their own roles. That’s why compromising in relationships is more important than ever before. Because we no longer rely on the roles dictated by our culture, almost every action requires negotiation. Whenever you find yourselves on the opposite sides while making a decision look for a healthy balance. If the outcome of your decision will have a bigger impact on your partner, it’s a good idea to sacrifice for him/her. Mutual understanding and a good will are the best guides in making compromises.

Also keep in mind that people's needs change over time, and so do life's demands. That’s why it is very important for good relationships to compromise and renegotiate all the time.

2. Change your perception.

Many of us have a tendency to over analyze things and as a result exaggerate existing problems. We often see things as much worse than they actually are. Try to look at arising issues as challenges that are necessary to your growth. They teach you important lessons about yourself, your partner and ultimately about your relationship. How differently would you approach the problem if you believe that it is helping you learn new things about yourself? By working on it as a couple, it can bring the two of you closer.

3. Don’t try fixing your partner.

If you are a person that loves everything about your partner consider yourself a lucky exception. Most of the couples admit (not always openly) that there are things about their partners they do not like. And this is ok. Happy relationships are not the ones in which partners love everything about each other but the ones who are acceptant of the less perfect traits and habits of their loved ones. Understanding your partner’s background (family, upbringing, values and likes) will help you to be more tolerant. You can’t change who he/she is at heart so “fixing” your partner simply doesn’t work. Focus on the things you love about your partner and the reasons you fell in love in the first place.

4. Communicate clearly.

When talking to your partner, be clear with what you mean and what you need/want. Too often a conversation turns into a guessing game. If you are not sure what your partner means, ask questions to assure you don’t make a wrong interpretation and don’t misunderstand his/her intentions. If something bothers you, talk to your partner right away. Don’t brush it under the carpet is order to avoid confrontation. There is nothing worse than letting resentment simmer. Bring up the issue with love and concern. Don’t be defensive. That will only encourage your partner to put his/her defenses up. When you both are in a fight mode, your conversation will turn into a blame game and the problem will be impossible to solve.

5. View yourselves as a team.

The moment you decide to be in a relationship you make a decision to be on the same team: to cooperate, help each other out and grow together. Don’t let your differences divide you. Everyone is unique and those differences are what brings the most value to your relationship. Your individual strengths is what makes a good team. Know what you are good at and let your partner handle what they do best (That means you need to be willing to compromise and notice and value your partner’s strengths). Also ,by sharing your different perspectives, you will find solutions to many arising issues that will help you to grow as a couple.

Since every relationship is different and very complex, you need to decide which rules are most important for improving your partnership. Work on the ones you have the most problem implementing. Don’t give up or stress out when you have a hard time applying some of these guidelines. All of them are skills that can be learned. All you need is a little patience and continues practice. Give it a try!

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