If you think your sex life post baby sucks, you'll be glad to know you're not alone. Many women (okay, make that me and some others who'll bravely admit) struggle with meeting their partner's sexual needs because of the never-ending (and exhausting) tasks that come with motherhood. Plus, it's not like you always feel sexy and confident all the time to get naked in front of your man, right? These definitely impact your desire to be intimate with him but deep inside, I'm positive that you're wondering how to get your sexy back in the bedroom (or any room, for that matter). So in an effort to help you spice up your sex life post baby, here are five tips to remember.
1. Start with unexpected small but sweet romantic gestures.
Give your man a massage when your little bundle of joy is already asleep. Make sure to wear nightwear that you feel confident and good in so he'll notice how you're making an effort to cater to his needs, despite being busy. You may not be able to set aside time like this for him regularly (given how crazy the first couple of months of parenting can be) but finding a way to show him you haven't forgotten about him is a great place to start.
2. Schedule time for sex.
Yes, you may think this is such a terrible idea but before you raise your eyebrows on me, here's why this makes sense. Scheduling time for getting intimate will help both of you be excited and look forward to satisying each other's desires. It helps light up that spark. Spontaneous sex is good but when you get caught up in the daily grind, it becomes impossible. Additionally, if you schedule other things in your calendar, isn't giving each other the pleasure you both deserve as important, too?
3. Quickies, baby!
Among all things you probably hate about sex and its types, quickies are on top of the list (No worries, I feel you!). But before you say no, try having them first. Having quickies with your man will surely help you feel connected and closer to your him between early morning feedings and your baby's uncontrollable (and sometimes scary) crying fits. It's a great way to spice up your union without sacrificing your baby's needs.
4. Take some time off.
You probably won't feel good leaving your newborn with a sitter to have a date night (and good hotel sex) with your man. For this reason, find a close relative or friend you know you can trust with your baby so you and your partner can go some place where you can enjoy each other's company and affection again.
5. Be creative (and naughty).
I don't know what you have in mind but I have some things in mind. And no, I won't tell you. Kidding aside, find other things you're comfortable doing so you can nurture your relationship with your man (Wink, wink). The possibilities are endless if you have an open mind and a willing heart.
Relationships are already hard enough in themselves. Add kids to the equation and you'll surely have challenges with keeping your bond with your man strong while you fulfill the role of a mother to your newborn, too. But with these tips, you'll surely nail the art of keeping your relationship with the two most important people in your life. Good luck!