This article was first published on IntroductionsbyDiana.com.
"We find our good love at the time we deserve it." - Norman Mailer
Don't we all know someone or are we someone who is chronically single? Chronically, for these purposes, means each year you find yourself still single regardless of the number of dates or short relationships you have. The following are five possible ways to change things up a little. These may seem simple, but very often it is the simple changes that make the biggest differences.
1. Expand your friendships beyond your usual group of friends.
Adding friends to your social circle can change the dynamic and energy of your social life, and meeting friends of new friends may just introduce you to a new someone special to get to know...
2. Consider calling on an image consultant.
Even though your old clothes may still fit, revise your clothes closet, hair color/style, buy a new trench/raincoat. This is about reflecting who you are inside and allowing that to show to the world and other people around you. Let the world see how amazing you are on the outside and your amazing character will do the rest.
3. Fight the urge to stay home.
Don't cancel social obligations because you don't feel like going - don't forget that you had the desire when you bought the ticket or made the commitment. You never know what/who will happen to you when you attend social events, and if all else fails, you can head home early and plan your next big outing.
4. Go to places you don't typically go.
Boat Show, Home Show, Country Music Venues. Start experimenting with one new place/event per month and go from there. Your confidence will naturally start increasing as your world expands to new things you've never seen or done before.
5. Resist the impulse to turn down invitations from people you are "not sure you will like".
Give them and yourself a chance. People are generally more than what your first impression tells you, so unless you are getting those 'serial killer' gut feelings from someone, go have a coffee, listen to some music together or go for a walk in the park. You really don't know until you try.
Being single is different for everyone, so if you are feeling like you might be heading into the realm of the chronic single person, try out some or all of these tips. If you have other ideas, please comment with your ways to avoid being chronically single.