If you want to create more peace in your relationships, it starts with your relationship with yourself. The relationship of your dreams, where there's authentic connection and you feel loved, accepted, and honored just as you are is completely possible when you realize that it starts with YOU.
The thought patterns and limiting beliefs that keep you from truly opening to the potential for an expansive, fulfilling, and connected partnership are nothing more than mental habits.
You can dismantle those habits and create new neural pathways that will enable you to let go of the drama of the monkey mind and attain lasting peace and contentment in all your relationships.
Here are a few practices that will help you tame the monkey mind and create more peace, harmony, and connection with yourself and in your relationships.
1. Move Out of Resistance and Toward Total Acceptance
When you resist what is, you unconsciously resist your ability to create harmony in your relationships. You push against your partner as they express where they're at in their own personal evolution and unwittingly create an energy of non-acceptance. This is bound to create tension, but that tension is eliminated once you consciously move into the energy of acceptance.
If you choose to be with someone, accept them as they are and not the version you wish them to be. Allow them to grow and transform at their own pace and continually choose to accept them exactly as they are in each moment.
2. Welcome Gentleness and Compassion
When you embody gentleness and compassion you'll find that your connection deepens naturally as these energies are rooted in trust and kindness. With gentleness, you choose to respond, instead of jumping into reactions and assumptions, and this opens up a dynamic communication flow that is free from fear.
With compassion comes grace, and you give your partner the grace to go work through their own internal process. Your compassionate understanding stems from love, the desire for harmony and the understanding that most people haven't been shown a very good example of this type of love.
Even if a topic is heated or opinions are conflicting, it can still be addressed from a place of compassion and gentleness. This is how you practice choosing love over fear, and choosing harmony over drama.
3. Release Expectations
Expectations are the underlying unspoken standards that you expect your partner to follow. When your expectations aren't met you might find yourself upset over something that was never clearly addressed. But if you can release expectations of others you'll no longer set yourself up for disappointment.
Work on letting go of the ideals that society and your created self told you a relationship should have. Release the attachment to people or situations being a certain way. Let go and you will find peace in the space where your expectations used to be.
4. Create Space
"Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls." - Khalil Gibran
It's common to become so enthralled in the ecstasy of your union that you can no longer spend time with yourself in quiet reflection. You become so tangled up in the excitement of partnership that you dismantle the need for space, for working on your own personal growth.
At first, the lack of space might seem comforting, like a sweet embrace. But over time you may notice that there's an element of suffocation. You need room to breathe, to expand, and to look within.
When creating harmony is your goal, there's no ignoring the necessity of allowing space between your oneness. You aren't completing each other, you are two complete souls choosing to come together in the name of growth, love and personal evolution.
5. Prioritize Clarity and Communication
Clarity goes beyond honesty because it's attempting to reach the goal of understanding. Language is often misconstrued and a large percentage of what you try to convey is actually expressed more through your body language than anything else.
Harmony and peace come from understanding, and that doesn't have to mean agreeing. It's simply seeing and accepting where the other person is coming from. When clarity is the foundation of your communication you can truly grow together, without fear of your words being taken the wrong way.
Intuitively, you know if something's been taken the wrong way or misconstrued, and these are often the occasions which drama seems to appear out of nowhere. Before that happens, address the feeling and do your best to create complete energetic clarity around your intention.
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