For most of us, we need to take a hard look at our married life and reflect on how to grow passion and energy. In most cases, how to put it back in again. The stresses and strains of life such as career, raising kids and growing older, can deplete us -- or at the very least, distract us from the goal of sustaining an intimate, dynamic connection with our life partner. Then as the months and years go by, we find ourselves struggling with the very person we fell deeply in love with and wonder what to do.
We had the fun of hosting the premier of Sex Tapes in early July. This couple decided to tape themselves in a variety of sexual positions as a way to bring life and energy back into the marriage -- like they used to have when dating and before kids. As you may know, the video was saved to "the cloud" and a myriad of friends came into possession of the prurient and steamy love life they managed to film.
So our recommendations on ways to spice up your marriage don't involve HD videos that may leak to viewers you never intended. We're pretty sure that watching yourselves have sex wouldn't do the trick anyway. So here are some thoughts and ideas that may get you going -- only between you and your lover.
- Let down your guard and let each other in again. If you are really disconnected and passion has waned for sometime, defensiveness and anger may well have taken loving connections place. Surrender your toughness and soften up to each other.
So if you're bound and determined to film yourselves naked, try these ideas out anyway. These create memories and deepen connections with your lover that end up saved in the cloud -- your brain and heart where they keep love alive, sustain excitement and grow back the love you once had.