50 Tangible Ways to Practice Self-Love

If you don't work on yourself, if you don't take time for rest and relaxation, if you don't feed your soul, then you'll be so burnt out and depleted you won't be any help to anyone else -- least of all yourself.
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I've gotten requests from a lot of women who have said, "OK, I'm working on thinking more positively, but I'd love to have more tangible ways to practice self-love right now."

I get that.

Self-love is not just a concept in our heads. In my work, I talk a lot about releasing negative thoughts and criticism towards yourself and embracing more loving thoughts. I also talk about how our thoughts create our actions and therefore our lives. But self-love can be a very concrete, realistic thing.

The problem is that we've been taught for a long time that if we're not constantly working hard or taking care of others, we're being selfish.

What we're not taught, is that taking care of yourself is taking care of others. If you don't work on yourself, if you don't take time for rest and relaxation, if you don't feed your soul, then you'll be so burnt out and depleted you won't be any help to anyone else -- least of all yourself.

Now, the below list may seem trivial at first glance. However, I promise that if you commit to putting some of them into practice, every single day, you'll see quantum shifts in your life.

Without further ado, here is my list of 50 Ways to Practice Self-Love.

  1. Buy yourself fresh flowers.
  2. Clean your house or apartment.
  3. Organize your workspace and files.
  4. Take time for rest and relaxation.
  5. Wear red lipstick and heels just because it's a Tuesday.
  6. Eat while focusing only on your food.
  7. Make a list of fun activities to do and post on your fridge.
  8. Repeat the following mantra "I love and accept myself."
  9. Make a list of all the things you like about yourself.
  10. Each night before bed write in your gratitude journal.
  11. Start the day with two minutes of meditation.
  12. Treat yourself.
  13. Dress your body lovingly in a gorgeous outfit.
  14. Put your fork down between bites.
  15. Cut down on your caffeine intake.
  16. Make it a priority to get eight hours of sleep.
  17. Read a good book.
  18. Do something for yourself without guilt.
  19. Set the mood while cooking -- candles lit, music on.
  20. Buy something you've always wanted.
  21. Practice the art of saying "no."
  22. Be of service -- volunteer, help a friend, etc..
  23. Compliment someone today.
  24. Get your sweat on.
  25. Shake your booty.
  26. Smile.
  27. When you grocery shop say, "I am choosing this for my body because I love her."
  28. Give yourself a massage with beautifully scented lotion.
  29. Go for a hike or long walk.
  30. Stand up straight and tall.
  31. Try something new: dance classes, cooking lessons, yoga.
  32. Invite your friends over for a girls' night.
  33. Call your mom and tell her you love her (or your dad, sister, etc.).
  34. Snuggle up with your honey or four-legged friend.
  35. Commit to doing your hair and makeup for a week.
  36. Allow yourself to have that piece of chocolate and savor every minute.
  37. When someone offers your a compliment, simply say, "Thank you."
  38. Plan an adventure.
  39. Shut off your email and cellphone for an hour.
  40. Buy yourself roses on Valentine's day.
  41. Complete that project or goal you started.
  42. Stop procrastinating already!
  43. Give yourself a day off.
  44. Self-love mantra: "I am enough. I have enough. I do enough."
  45. Let go of comparison to others.
  46. Clean your fridge and fill it with fresh foods.
  47. Use soothing or invigorating essential oils like lavender and lemon.
  48. Write a love letter to your ex and burn it.
  49. Host a dinner party.
  50. Hire a coach or a counselor.

There you have it! These are all things I do, or have done in the past and know that they give you an extra dose of self-love.

In the comments share with me which of these tips you're going to try!

Be good to yourself,