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6 Valentine's Day Do's & Don'ts!

If you need a dozen roses, a diamond ring or a box of chocolates to prove the love found in the relationship, chances are the love isn't really there.
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Most life and relationship experts would be for all the Valentine's Day hoopla! Mending broken hearts, suggesting which restaurants to take your significant other out to dinner, or how many roses and chocolates to buy, etc. To me, Valentine's Day is just another day and we shouldn't get caught up in the pressure to buy our partner's love. I believe if you truly love someone, everyday should feel like Valentine's Day and one day out of the year shouldn't be a reflection of the love you have for your partner. Below you'll find 6 tips Valentine's Day Do's and Don'ts that may help you have a more meaningful Valentine's Day this Holiday season.


If you need a dozen roses, a diamond ring or a box of chocolates to prove the love found in the relationship, chances are the love isn't really there. It's the little things that count (i.e. Time spent, hugs, kisses, love and affection). Don't let the holidays and the pressure from media, friends and family force you to do something just for the sake of doing it. Show your love in your own special way.


You don't need a man to enjoy Valentine's Day. Date yourself! Don't think that you have to have someone in your life in order for you to love your life. Read #SingleByDesign here.


On holidays like Valentine's Day, restaurants are packed, cards, roses and chocolate sales are at an all-time high, and most men are spending ridiculous amounts all in efforts to please a woman. Instead of spending hours traveling to and from a destination, sitting in a crowded restaurant where you can't actually enjoy the intimate time with one another, think of creative ways to enjoy each other's company in a romantic way right at home. Don't let Valentine's Day pressure you into breaking the bank.


Most people feel pressure to go out and buy something on Valentine's Day. I was in a store shopping for a few clothing items and there was a gentlemen next to me getting ready to buy a cheap pair of $7.99 "gold" earrings for the "women he loved." He looked at me and said "It's the thought that counts." Sometimes, communicating those thoughts with a simple "I love you and I appreciate you" will suffice. Showing someone that you care can't be bought; love is something that you invest. Don't waste your money on things that have no value/meaning.


The better you know your partner, the easier it will be to please them no matter what time of year it is. Personally, I could sit back, watch movies at home, eat a home-cooked meal, and end the evening with a "happy ending" for the rest of my life and never have to leave home. A box of chocolates, card and a teddy bear would be the wrong gift for "me". You'll save money and time by having a better understanding of what makes your partner happy. Don't buy a gift just for the sake of saying you got him/her something; give from the heart.


Kids look forward to holidays because it gives them an opportunity to be creative and to celebrate! Our job as parents is to show them the true value and meaning of the celebration. The power of giving and being selfless will stay with them for all the days of their lives. By giving gifts from the heart (i.e. handmade cards, pictures, and video messages) it helps build their character. It's important that they understand early on that money can't buy you love. Don't lead your child to believe that one must go out and buy something in order for the gift to have value.

How do you like to spend your Valentine's Day? What are your do's and don'ts? Post your comments below.

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