You find yourself struggling in one or more relationships and you are wanting to improve them. You recognize relationships are essential to your wellbeing and happiness, both personally and professionally, and are ready for them to be easy and flow freely. You know you get in your own way over thinking at times, holding back during others, and holding on to things longer than necessary, but you are ready to do what you need to in order to create change.
The first thing you need to create change is to recognize that your most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. If you are not in harmony with yourself, then the discord will transfer into your other relationships as well. The relief, however, comes in the knowingness that you have all the power within you to improve things instantly. All you have to do is align yourself with your truth and change any thoughts that are not working for you--be your best friend, be right, be respectful and be fully aligned with your morals, values and integrity. Most importantly, do it for you--and you will find yourself improving your relationships without intending to.
Improving your relationship with yourself will also help you honor yourself while simultaneously honoring your relationships, setting boundaries, holding on to your sense of self, and relinquishing responsibility over others in a loving way. By relinquishing responsibility over others you are allowing them to be themselves and focus on themselves without feeling responsible for you, which will help your relationship in many ways, including increasing trust, respect, compassion, effective communication, team work, appreciation, acceptance, unconditional love, and much more.
Affirmations are a perfect way to create instant change. You can set time aside for affirmations, use them in the middle of a conversation, or recite them to yourself in preparation for a conversation or to help move forward in any way. With strong and positive intent, they help transform your already occurring thoughts into healthier and more supportive ones, therefore shifting relationships from any discord into ones of harmony. They are also a wonderful way to coach and empower yourself at any time and through anything, including one of the scariest fears, being yourself. Here, you will find seven affirmations to instantly improve your relationships and your life.
"I love and approve of myself."
"It is safe for me to be me."
"It is safe for me to love and to be loved."
"I love you, but I am not responsible for you."
"It is safe for you to be you."
"Thank you, but you are not responsible for me."
"I forgive you for not being who I wanted you to be, and I thank you for being who I needed you to be."
Use these affirmations as often as you can, and before you know it you will find yourself and your relationships flowing in harmony.