The Blog

7 Things Women Should Know About Self-Image

You're the only person in this world that is you. You are unique individuals and that is fantastic. Embrace who you are. You are beautiful. You are worthy. You are enough. Accept yourself and love all your flaws.
This post was published on the now-closed HuffPost Contributor platform. Contributors control their own work and posted freely to our site. If you need to flag this entry as abusive, send us an email.

I've struggled with body imagine my entire life. I was the skinny girl who you seen eating all the time but I could never gain any weight. I had a very high metabolism. After high school started. I was often teased and harassed, and started to become quite self-conscious about being to skinny. The girls would whisper, giggle and call me names.

Of course, we all have that picture perfect imagine that we want to see when we look in the mirror. For some strange reason we think that our lives would be so much easier, if we could just be "that" size. As women, we seem to allow ourselves to be critiqued by the world's view of our self image and this can affect our self-esteem.

Love the Skin You're In

You're the only person in this world that is you. You are unique individuals and that is fantastic. Embrace who you are. You are beautiful. You are worthy. You are enough. Accept yourself and love all your flaws.

Find Your Tribe

You are not everyone's cup of tea. We need to feel connected, supported and loved. Finding your tribe of friends will allow you to feel accepted, appreciated and understood. Your tribe will also give you the confidence to stop pretending and be yourself. Keep your standards high, feel good in your own skin and be happy. Soon, you will find yourself surrounded by loving people who will encourage and empower you.

Healthy Habits

Good nutrition is an important part of leading a healthy lifestyle. You can do anything that you set your mind to do. Your new healthy habit can be anything from meditation, eating better or trying out a new exercise. Any decision to improve your overall health will benefit you in the long run. Choose a healthy habit that is easy to start. Remember that your life goals isn't your healthy habit change but it will get you started in the right direction. Don't forget this is all a process. Each day you will become better, stronger and more successful.

Embrace Life

We live in a fast paced superficial world. Where ever you go, there you are. You can't always control the world around you. Take time to breathe everything in, think about what is going on and let circumstances unfold as they may. Why not allow the universe catch you.

Gather Together

I enjoy hanging out with my friends and family over a nice meal. Social connections help us maintain a sense of belonging. Attending a dinner party is heartwarming and it brings people closer. "People with social support have fewer cardiovascular problems and immune problems, and lower levels of cortisol -- a stress hormone," says Tasha R. Howe, PhD, associate professor of psychology at Humboldt State University.

Think of Others

Volunteering makes a difference in the lives of other people. Studies have shown that people who volunteer and donate their time feel more socially connected. Many people find volunteer work to be helpful with respect to stress reduction, boost your self-confidence and give you a over satisfaction of happiness. A 2012 study in the journal Health Psychology found that participants who volunteered with some regularity lived longer.


Gratitude means you're thankful for what you have. You count your blessings by noticing the simple pleasures in life. You also acknowledge everything that you receive. You can learn to live your life as though if everything is a miracle, and you are aware of everything that have been given to you. Being thankful changes your mindset from what your life lacks to the abundance that you currently have. One way you can start to practice gratitude daily is by keeping a journal of everything in your life that you are thankful to have. Don't wait for something good to happen to practice gratitude. Start seeing the good in every situation. This will help you improve you self-image. It's not what others think about you, it's what you think about yourself that truly matters.

Follow Audrey Childers on Twitter: