As my son, a middle-schooler, was finishing up an hour long phone call with his "girlfriend" of a month, I overheard him say "I love you" before he hung up. I was stunned. I happened to be scanning through a book online, ironically, called "Loving Yourself" by Sherrie Campbell, Ph.D. and immediately closed my iPad, drawing an absolute blank as I looked up in an effort to process his declaration. This was a first. Even with all the signs of his independence, such as going to a movie on a date, making his own arrangements with friends to get together, and being incredibly organized with his day to day activities, I wasn't quite ready for what I consider such an adult showing of emotion. So many questions...
- Where did he get it from? "I love you" has not historically been a term used with any frequency in our home. Certainly not when their father, my ex-husband, lived with us. I say it on occasion to my children but not every day. I didn't grow up in an affectionate environment and try as I may I just can't get used to saying it all the time. I'm also not a fan of over using it as some parents do with every phone call and interaction. We show our love in all sorts of different ways during the day. Could his influence be the result of "better living through television?" Score one for the media.
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