8 Simple Things I Want My Daughter To Know About Life

Be good to yourself.
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As my daughter graduates kindergarten this year, I feel a little sentimental. Not only do I look back on her 5 years on this earth reminiscing all her baby moments and her first accomplishments, but I also look forward to the future envisioning all that she can be and achieve in this world.

I don't want her to lose her wonderful charismatic personality, her beautiful creative mind, and her loving and caring heart. As cliché as this may sound, I have so many hopes and dreams for her as she grows into a young woman.

I wish she could comprehend at her young age all the things I really want her to know about life. I would share with her these 8 tips:

  1. Every day starts with possibility - Every day you have the possibility to be more than you were the day before. You have the chance to start over, to right a wrong, to practice on something you just can’t get yet. You have the chance to tell someone how you truly feel. You have possibility – that little glimpse of hope that maybe today will be the day you accomplish your goal or fulfill your dream.
  2. You don’t have to be perfect – You don’t have to always fit in. You don’t have to look perfect and you don’t have to be perfect to please someone else. You don’t have to master everything you do, as long as you try and give your best, that’s all that matters. You were put on this earth to do wonderful, incredible things, whatever they may be. As long as you work hard and stay true to yourself, you will live a fulfilling and joyful life.
  3. Ask for help – Don’t struggle with something you are having trouble with. Take away your pride and your perception of what people may think of you if you ask for help. There are times life would have been much easier if I had taken this advice. Just ask for help, it’s not going to make you look inferior.
  4. Understand finances – Take the time to learn how to save money, how to create and live on a budget, and how to sustain a modest lifestyle. Being financially stable will give you comfort and breathing room to take chances in life that may lead you to a brighter future. Don’t get stuck in a job because you need that paycheck to survive. Don’t be so house poor that you can’t travel or explore the world like you really should. Use credit wisely. Stay humble, modest and save your little buns off. You will thank me later.
  5. Go with your gut – Often times you will have to make hard decisions. You will use logic and common sense and weigh the pros and cons, but if that nagging feeling inside yourself is telling you to go one way over the other, listen to it. Following my gut has proved me right in so many circumstances. Even if everything looks great on paper, but you just don’t have a good feeling about it, listen to yourself.
  6. Be good to yourself – Always take care of yourself. Eat healthy, exercise, get plenty of sleep, enjoy the outdoors, have healthy friendships and relationships, do more of what makes you happy. Relax, travel, take vacations, read, write, create art, take the time to enjoy all the little things. Don’t rush and stress. Don’t quiet your inside voice. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Smile, laugh and find joy in your own solitude. Taking good care of yourself will make it so much easier to care for someone else when the time comes.
  7. Be kind – Even when you don’t feel like it. There will be really great times in your life and really hard times. But remember that no matter how great or how hard things are for you, it doesn’t excuse you from not being a good person. Practice kindness and compassion throughout your life to all that come across your path. I’m not going to tell you to smile through the pain and laugh through the tough times. You are allowed to have feelings of sadness and anger just as you are allowed to have feelings of happiness and joy. But always keep kindness and compassion at your core. Lend a helping hand when you can and be a shoulder to cry on and a great friend.
  8. Work hard – You are not entitled. You are not above anyone else. Work hard at the things in life that matter to you most. Create your future, don’t let someone else tell you what your future should be. Experiment with careers, study hard, and always keep learning. Be proud of yourself and all your accomplishments no matter how small. Always put faith and trust in yourself. Don’t ever underestimate yourself. You can do it if you believe in yourself and work hard to get there.

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