9 Personality Traits Men Want In A Woman

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How do you know if you're THAT GIRL?

How do you know if you've got "the right stuff" that drives men wild, turns us on, and keeps us hooked on YOU?

We all have our personal preferences...

... but there are SOME things that every man is looking for when it comes to "girlfriend material."

In today's video I'm going to talk about the 9 Personality Traits That Men Want in a Woman.

Taste varies wildly from one man to the next.

Some guys light up at the idea of a "brainy type" who likes to discuss semiotics or the merits of the Rococo Art Movement...

Other guys are looking for an "athletic type" who likes to sweat it out in Crossfit or train for marathons.

However...

SOME personality traits are universally attractive to men -- check out this week's video to find out what they are!

I'm curious from you, have I missed any traits? Leave a comment below.

Your Coach,
Adam

PS: Movies and magazines have made women believe that physical attraction is the most important thing to men -- but that's actually a MYTH created by mass media.

Want to know what guys REALLY want?

Click here to discover how to become IRRESISTIBLE to men -- including the most charming, successful, intelligent and attractive guys out there (HINT: it has nothing to do with looking like a Victoria's Secret model!)

Summary

1. Sense of Humor

Please don't be a serious Sally on a first date. I remember I went on a first date with a woman. I was telling her I was creating a YouTube dating advice channel and there would be some humor involved. She stopped me right in my tracks and said, "Woah, dating is way too serious for any jokes." At that very moment I knew it was not going to work out.

It is impossible to flirt without laughter. Develop a sense of humor and have a little bit of fun with it.

2. Agreeableness

When two people start dating, it necessary to go with the flow. If you're always trying to fit every single thing in, you're never going to make it in a relationship.

Of course there will be one person who's probably a little bit stronger than the other person, and that's perfectly natural. But at times, you just have to be agreeable and go with the flow even if you don't want to.

3. Opinionated

You want to be agreeable but you also want to have opinions. Be proud of your thoughts, and have some fact behind your opinions. Educate yourself and have something to say. A guy's going to get bored of you if you don't have opinions of your own. No guy wants to just date a yes woman.

4. Kindness

Be nice to people. Keep a smile on your face and know that you're going to be approached by some creepers in your life. Understandable. But that doesn't mean you have to be an ass to every guy who comes up with genuine interest.

5. Intelligence

If you find a guy who is scared of your intelligence, scare him away. Scare the living shit out of him.

You don't want to be with a guy who is scared of an intelligent woman. If you're intelligent, find a guy who matches your level of intelligence. Easy enough.

6. Great Character

The way a guy will truly judge you and the relationship is not necessarily based on when things are going well in your life. It's when things aren't going very well and how you react to those things. So having great character means you have a strong sense of self and you have a strong ability to react well to bad situations.

7. Being Affectionate

Men need some love too, ok?

8. Independence

Of course we want to be with a woman who is very affectionate and who's always there for us, but at the same time, a lot of men also want to have their space to live their own lives. If you can really balance those two things, and of course live your own amazing life outside of the relationship, you're going to be able to draw men in even more. It's going to really enhance every part of the relationship.