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A Guide To Reading This Book Called Marriage

This book called marriage can be thick, with chapters of varying lengths and teeny tiny font. It can make you laugh out loud and cry with joy. It could be the best book you've ever read.

It could also be a slim book with oversized text. A speed read.

It might be a book that starts out strong, but loses your interest somewhere along the way.

The setting and the tone of this book can change with very little notice. When this happens, it can be worrying and frightening, exciting and hopeful.

You might like the main character(s) in one chapter and dislike him/her in the next.

There are new characters being introduced all the time. This, too, can be worrying and frightening, exciting and hopeful.

The same goes for plot twists.

Some chapters are worth re-reading. Others, not so much.

There will be passages you want to highlight. Words you need to look up. Phrases you hope to remember forever.

There will also be parts that make you question what in the world the author was thinking!

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Lots of people will say you have to read this book. It’s a must-read, they'll insist.

Many people will truly love this book.

These people will make the book seem like a beach read.

Some people will rave about the book even if they don't really like it very much because it feels like the whole world loves this book and they don’t want to be the odd one out.

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Not everyone will recommend the book.

People will tell you their mom/dad/brother/sister/aunt/uncle/friend thought the book was sad/depressing/awful/scary/a waste of time.

You might meet someone who hates reading books. (They may never read this one. Or they may pick it up sometime later to see what all the fuss is about.)

They may say they’ll wait for the movie version.

Lots of people won't stick with the book. They might be better off trying another genre.

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Investing in a hardback doesn’t guarantee durability.

Some versions of the book are shorter than others.

Some endings will come too quickly and others will be a long time coming.

Unfortunately, you don’t always get to pick the version.

You might find someone has spilled coffee on your edition. The pages are crinkly and stained. You have to work harder to read the words.

Or you may be happily reading the book only to discover someone’s ripped out a bunch of pages.

Or you could get to a point where you think the book is coming to an end, but then you're relieved to see there are more pages left than you first thought.

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Some of the book covers seem shinier, prettier, and more valuable than others, but with all things, it’s what’s inside that counts.

Though, some books really are that lovely, inside and out.

It’s best not to compare editions.

Keep your nose in your own book.

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On the good days, you read the book slowly and intentionally, taking in every word, enjoying the flow of the prose. You like to revisit the highlighted sentences.

On the worst days, your mind wanders and you can’t stop counting the pages. You consider flipping to the end just to be able to move on. You can’t remember why you highlighted those sentences at all.

Try to have more good days than bad.

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You may feel pressure to be at certain points in the book.

People will have strong opinions about your reading pace. They will wonder when you'll get to the next chapter and then when you do, they'll ask about the chapter after that. You'll feel like you can't read fast enough.

Those people will be adamant that it shouldn't take you so long to read this book.

But they will also be disappointed if you read too quickly. Did you skip pages? Did you skim it? You can't just skim it!

Most people won't share the parts they are struggling to read because they think everyone else is getting through the book so easily.

Join a book club. Share your favorite passages and the chapters you can’t quite understand.

Take your time. Re-read. Question. Highlight. Bookmark. Enjoy.

This book usually reads best if you keep at it, rather than picking it up and putting it back down again.

But if you really want to, if you really love it, you can always find the page where you left off.

Becoming a best-seller has a lot more to do with love, sweat and tears than sheer luck.

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This book called marriage is subjective.

This book isn’t for everyone, in every way.

This book may look different to your neighbor’s/friend’s/sibling’s/coworker’s book.

You don't always know what kind of book you have.

And because of that, you keep turning the page, and try very, very hard not to spoil the ending.

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