Parenting

A Letter To My Firstborn

In a short time you will no longer be an only child.

My first love,

In a short time you will no longer be an only child. It’s going to be quite the transition for you, and my mommy heart can’t help but worry. You’ve been the center of my attention for 2+ years and will soon have to share that limelight with another. I want you to know a few things to make this transition easier on the both of us:

I love you. More than I’ll ever be able to put into words. We have a special bond, the two of us, as you taught me how to be a mother. You dealt with all of my first time fumblings and nervous tears. You opened my heart to a love only a mother could know. I’ll also love your baby sister. And I’ll be able to love her and love her well because of you, my sweetheart.

You’re important to me. Just because there’s a new baby who will need my attention constantly, it does not mean you or your needs are any less important. I may ask you to wait so that I can take care of the baby, but that does not mean you’re second to her. You just have the ability to wait longer than she does.

“I love you. More than I’ll ever be able to put into words. We have a special bond, the two of us, as you taught me how to be a mother.”

I’m sorry if I’m cranky with you. Having a newborn means your mommy is going to be tired and frazzled for a bit. If I snap at you, I am so very sorry. Know that it is in no way your fault. I’m just in desperate need of at least 20 hours of sleep and a bottle of wine.

Most importantly: I am so excited to watch you become a big brother. As nervous as I am about you having to share all my love, I am more excited about watching you take this big step. You are the sweetest soul with a touch of wild and I know you will love and protect her like no one else can. She’s the luckiest little girl to have a big brother like you!

So although this transition is scary and unknown to the both of us, I can’t wait to see all the love and happiness it brings to our family, and you especially. Until she arrives, I am going to spend our last days soaking in every bit of you. Every smile, every hug, every laugh. And when that time comes to an end remember this one thing: I loved you first.

Love In One Photo