This article was originally published on Unwritten.
We’ve all heard it at one time or another, “he was the right guy, but it was the wrong time for us.” Well, how about what happens when you meet the wrong guy, but at exactly the right time in your life? Experiencing this kind of heartbreak really sucks. At the same time, it’s one of the best experiences and tools I’ll ever have. At the end of the day I’m glad I can say:
I met the wrong guy, at the perfect time.
When you’re a 20-something, going through a breakup, it can feel like the end of the world. However, it’s also the best time in your life because you can and will bounce back from it. This is also the time in your life where you’re figuring out who you are and what you really want in life. A breakup only helps you get closer to figuring that out.
You’re one step closer to finding someone who’s better suited for you.
Meeting the wrong guy sometimes means that you:
1. Lose yourself while being with him.
2. Realize he’s not the person you really want as a partner.
3. Change your values so that they meet his.
4. Find yourself hoping that your relationship will go back to the way it was.
5. Find that your relationships with the people most important in your life have been altered for the worse.
6. Struggle to keep up with your friends lives because you’ve become consumed with your man.
At the end of the day, when you’re with the wrong guy, your priorities change for the worse, and so do you. If all the other aspects of your life are decreasing in quality, sometimes that means you should step back and reassess.
Personally, my biggest hint was that I didn’t like who I was when I was with him. I became a clingy, untrusting, possessive and an insecure woman.
A WOMAN I WAS ASHAMED TO BE.
It took heartbreak for me to realize how wrong this person really was for me. Nothing against him as an individual, but together at that time, we just didn’t work. Frankly, he brought out the worst in me. But I’m grateful to have had that experience. Be grateful for the wrong guy, because he probably came at the right time. And this is the time before you meet the right guy:, the guy who will never make you an insecure, clingy and possessive woman. A guy who will help to make you better. Use your heartbreak from the wrong guy to find the right one. He’ll make you happier, better, and more loving. All because you met the wrong guy at the right time.