Clarity is hard to come by when you're in the middle of a divorce. Your emotions are running high, your legal bills are mounting and you can't help but wonder if you'll ever feel like yourself again.
Though you might feel a little wobbly now, eventually you will get through it. Take it from those who've been there. Earlier this week, we asked HuffPost Divorce readers to share with us the one thing they wish they could go back and tell themselves in the midst of their splits. See some of the most inspiring responses below.
1. "I would tell myself 'You are doing the right thing. Yes, it's tough now, but it will get better.'"
2. "Don't waste so much time being sad. You will regret that sadness robbed you of joyful times with your little boy."
3. "You're stronger than you know."
4. "Don't expect your ex to act like a grownup."
6. "Stop protecting his best interests and for once, do what's best for you and the kids. Not rudely, or spitefully, but because eventually the emotions will fizzle out, reality will set in and you will miss all you signed away in an effort to keep peace."
7. "If you know it's bad, don't stop the process to 'try one last time.' Things really won't change."
8. "You've loved, learned and will love again."
9. "Take things one day at a time. Don't overwhelm yourself with what the future holds."
11. "Deal with the right here, right now and try to put it behind you. Divorce sucks and nothing will change that but time."
12. "You will find out who your real friends are. You're doing the best with what you have right now."
13. "Do not react to every stimuli your ex throws at you. Stop, think, consult with your friends, sleep on it, and only then react, whether it's a phone call or an email. The right action will look far different tomorrow than it does today."
14. "It really will get better. That's so hard to believe in the midst of all the heartache."
15. "Don't listen to people who have not been through it when they say you just need to get over it and move on. Allow yourself all the time you need to process what is happening to you. It's important!"
17. "Welcome back. I'm glad you have your life back after 30 years of service."
18. "Don't let him off the hook. Don't feel sorry for him. Don't be a vindictive but stand up for yourself and your son. Make him, for once in his life, feel the sting of responsibility. Let him know how hard it is to really provide for a child."
19. "Focus on the positive and remember why you're in the midst of the chaos to begin with."
20. "Know that the hurt and pain will pass one day. Forgive him so you can heal. Don't say anything negative about your ex in front of the kids. Be respectful when dealing with him. Believe it or not, one day, you'll be able to laugh with him again."