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Are You A Do-Gooder Or A Good Doer?

This is a really important concept to contemplate and to consider in your life. So many people are out there trying to do good, but they're doing it from a consciousness of fear, of separation, or projection, instead of from the space of wholeness.

It's like an unhealed healer or an angry activist.

This is the key here. On some level early on in their life, they've been wounded.

That core wound really is a core initiation, and it really is pointing them in the direction of where they are meant to get stronger and ultimately make an impact in their life or in the greater world.

For example, let's say you were abused as a child, and you grow up having such pain around any form of violence or abuse. Your reaction to it is anger, sadness, bitterness, contempt towards those that perpetrate it, and you have very little, to no, compassion for those that are so caught in their own darkness that they would perpetrate such violence.

You're still the wounded little child that now just perhaps inhabits an adult body. In all kinds of ways, it's made you feel like a victim, and perhaps you've then put a mask on top of that, because, in many cases, the last thing an abused person wants to admit is that they're a victim. You might put a mask on top of that to try to act independent and to be strong. You might have tried to compensate by building up these superstructures of your ego that made you actually more separate from others, more distant, more arrogant, elitist, self-righteous, any or all of these qualities.

When we embrace these parts of us that we're projecting outside of us (the "bad capitalist", the "bad politician", the "bad lawyers", the "bad perpetrators" ...or even just in our own family, "the bad parents", etc.), when we embrace those things within ourselves, now we have real wisdom. We have real power, and we are a healing agency as we move back out into the world.

If we don't embrace those, we often are driven to try to stamp out or get rid of those things in the world, whether it's in our family, in our business, or in the larger global culture, and we become a do-gooder. We enact movements and strategies and practices or legislature, laws, and we wonder why we've been doing that over and over again and it doesn't change things.

When you look at where real change starts to happen, real evolution, real growth, it's because someone somewhere caught this vision, and they became less focused on the problem and more focused on the vision. They stopped merely trying to save the world, and decided to start serving the emerging possibility, the emerging vision, and they worked on themselves. It's the difference between a Malcolm X before his transition, and a Martin Luther King, Jr.

Look at that and notice where you're fighting and resisting - being do-gooders - and where you're actually creating more pain and more problems in your wake, if not for others, then for yourself. You want to take full responsibility for your emotions, your pain, and your projections, and recognize that real transformation is not about setting things right, but about seeing things rightly.

It is the consciousness of wholeness that heals, and when you can see through the appearance of the victims and the victimizers to the truth, to the true principle - the true vision of possibility -then both victim and victimizer are healed and become servants of this higher possibility.

That's the work of a good-doer. A good doer is one that's taking responsibility, that's doing the work within themselves first and foremost, and then as they are transformed, step into that vision, bringing that power and new wisdom. They're not going out there trying to save the poor, because if you see poor people you're just being a do-gooder, and you are actually keeping them stuck in a box of poverty.

If you are seeing a problem and resonating with the problem, you're a do-gooder. If you're trying to do something good, but resonating with the problem, and you're adding fuel to the problem. That's why Einstein said, "You cannot solve a problem at the level of thinking that created it." You have to rise to a higher level than the problem. You have to rise to the level of the potential. You have to not be a problem solver, but a vision holder.

Martin Luther King, Jr. certainly named the problems, but he didn't get on the Washington Mount and say, I have a dream today everybody is terrible, and us people of color need to rise up and stop all those bad people, white people. He didn't say, I have a big problem today. No. He said, "I have a dream. I've been to the mountaintop. I've seen the Promised Land. I know what's possible. I know what we're capable of." That was where the fire was.

Whatever your endeavor, your mission, your purpose, the ways you want to make a difference in your life, your family's, your children's, and the world, don't be a do-gooder. Be a good doer. Take responsibility for your feelings, your pain, your projections, and your judgments. Own them. Heal them. Integrate them.

See beyond the appearances to the truth of potential. Capture a vision and create a way of life that causes you to come into ever greater vibrational alignment with that vision, so that you can rejoice in the midst of sorrow. You can bring power in the midst of disempowerment. You can carry a consciousness of wealth and abundance and all things possible to the appearance of poverty.

In order to move from being a do-gooder to a good doer is to see people or situations where they're truly meant to be, not where they are or less than they really are. Meet them where they are and love them where they are, but then lift them to that place of wholeness.

To support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer.

To Your Emergence!

Stay inspired!

Derek