Are You A Workplace Bully?

In this unique and highly charged election season, bully is a word often heard. We have bully politicians. We have bully political pundits. We have bully media. We even have friends who have turned into bullies when we praise a favorite political candidate that doesn't match their favorite candidate.

Bullying doesn't stop with politics and school. It continues into college and on into the workspace. Adult bullying is a very real thing. I've had it happen to me in radio and I've had it happen to me in office situations. I see it over and over again at professional conferences. More often than not, I will call someone on it now.

Steeleworker (Facebook follower) Kelly Kemski asked me if I had ever written about adult bullying before. "I lost a friend to an unhealthy work environment by way of suicide. Now I see it happening as my younger friends start their careers. There's an office bully, a passive aggressive one, but a bully nonetheless." She added, " I feel work, like schools, should be a healthy environment for us, we spend a lot of time at work, as our children do at school."

Not only had I not written about it before, I had another friend reach out to me about an article I had written about changing careers (How To Break Out Of Career Jail) saying he was leaving a career due to bullying.

What is going on here? Let's review and make sure you know what a bully does.

You may be a bully if you:

• Make fun of others behind their back
• Smirk as they walk by or when you look at them across the room
• Berate their ideas constantly
• Never invite them to join in on joint events such as outings or happy hours
• Raise your voice at others to make your point
• Convince others to join you in ganging up on another
• Shun anyone who doesn't think like you do
• Blame others, never taking responsibility
• Gossip
• Dislike people who are different from you in any way

These are just a few based on personal experience. I was just saying to someone earlier this week how amazed I am every time I speak at a conference - there are always grown adults acting like junior high school kids shunning others, not making room at a table, ignoring those they don't know or like, not being welcoming in any way whatsoever.

Yes, that is bullying. Be nice. Be likeable. It's just not that hard to do.

PS: The nude pictures of Melania Trump run this past week in the NY Post? Yes, that is bullying as well. We are all better than this.

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Dayna Steele is the creator of the 101 Ways to Rock Your World book series and a popular keynote speaker with her true Rockstar Stories. She is also working to bring Alzheimer's awareness to all ages. www.daynasteele.com